",living as a guy" I am going to assume that makes you female body and guy inside, tell me if I got that incorrect.
Hello again uk (I hope I am not causing any grief today
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The first question I have been asked on more than one occasion when someone has been there in a professional capacity, is to ask, as Cindy also mentioned, 'what name do you wish to be called?'. That is there way of finding out how to talk with you.
Over the years I have talked many hours about many things with several professionals, although mainly with one woman who works as a case manager. I met her initially for one reason with the wife, and in time it morphed into other reasons and objectives.
I have never held back what was in my thoughts ever. Personal details that some might even have trouble discussing with anyone other than their dog
I have seen a written report as done by a shrink as an assessment of my life. It wasn't all pretty, some of it is as it usually is, rough especially when it's accurate. That's the thing eh, the more you give them, the more on the mark they are going to be. If you hold anything back, well they get an incomplete picture.
Not all shrinks are equal. Not all doctors are the same. Just like not every football player will be the same. If you don't like the person, do NOT hesitate to seek a better one. Don't waste your time trying to make a bad situation into a good one. Especially with something this important to you. This isn't the same as buying the wrong car.
Your journey from where you is, to where you want to be, it's your call. You don't want to go too slow, but you don't want to rush so fast you do things that are not in your best interests either. I went from thinking I was a guy with odd thoughts, to realizing I was never a guy over a few months. My 'transition' though was a singe day. I resolved I was not going to live the illusion and everyone was told I was a woman and I wasn't going back. My transition is 'over' and I am now merely going to spend likely a couple of years at least in doing the remodeling of the premises
It's all in how you look at it. What is your choice? Are you happy as things are? If not, what will make you happy?
That's really all the therapist is going to be wanting to find out. The therapist is not a surgeon, nor a hair stylist, nor a clothing seller, nor a fashion consultant. But they can help you decide what it is you want to be. From there, you can likely expect you will be learning a lot of things you might never have had to consider.
If I was correct, and you are in a female form, well your age will certainly give you some hassles to resolve.
You won't have my hassles, but, hassles are never any less the hassle for either of us eh. Not easy being born in either type body if it is the wrong one. I'd gladly trade menstrual cycles for male pattern balding.
There will be a lot of things to consider if you make a radical change to your life. And these are things the therapist should be expecting to have you confront. Have you had kids, do you expect to have kids, marriage. You'd be surprised at all the things most take for granted, that suddenly become a big decision. You will get a lot of mileage out of the therapist if you go in WANTING to deal with a LOT of questions. You have a lot of things to talk about.
But the first visit, will be a 'get to know you'. Don't expect the person to actually know you in 5 minutes
