Hi,
My comfort zone if i had one was wiped away the moment i told Jos i am a female, after that it was , the start of a life i could not live fully before this was some 20 years ago when i told Jos, .
Though im some what different i still had issues that stemmed from before birth, and after they showed up for 10 years, so i was effected by those,
socialy i was a misfit or miss fitted, i did not fit in, i was never bothered about my body because i thought i was normal well in some ways yes in other's not quite, other wise pretty happy ,
The one detail i struggled with from age 10 was i did not look right , and still dont,
clothes did not interest me though i totaly ...HATED... male clothes and what they represented, any thing male. abuse . yes i know they show a part of you as seen being female, well i am any way, yet even now it does not change who i am no matter what i wear, no male clothes of cause, oh, no way....
other than that i dont really care, or this way take all my clothes away im still a female, i still look as one, just facial features is my fail point,
One of the main issues is when you cant accept your self for who you are is where you fail ,
we then have to learn to love our selfs gain confidence in who we are have selfworth of who we are, and not allow others to put us down and this applys to myself is being a very confident woman who has grown to be one plus know in my birth im female not compleat as every one know's and how i express myself as i was not able to years ago.
how far have i gone how open do you wont or need to be would be my ? .
You are asking your self ?'s so you have doughts why are you not sure of your self are there things , details that are still there that stop you from progressing be sure of your self stand firm in who you are, to me this is not about wether your male or female or like myself its about you as a person get that right and sorted then get on your bike wether its a ladys or mans ,
allso you have to grow into being you, its not a tack on its not i wont to be a woman it wont work, its about this is your life then start growing accepting and being, no one else can do this for you,
If you relie on things say clothes or shoe's or what ever they the things are not you put them aside, and look at your self inwards dont look at your body its what you are inside thats going to carry you through trust me i know i know how i look frankly nothing like a female or woman though others may see that differently dont care, it's us inside that will be seen and accepted, hey im not pretty yet im very well accepted, with in our groups well over 1000' people, with in our membership. you see where im heading, grow accept and live, then do. this is about real life real people, and you can be part of that,
I see you said fantasy laughing away here, whats that, where does that fit in never did for myself, why well lets get real here, im real and so are you, so that being the case why not just stay with whats really going on about you as iv done get involved with lovely people let them get to know you open up , i hope you think about this and see something that can help you,
...noeleena...