Goodness, I could write all day about this!
The first thing I'll say in this regard, however, is how up until recently I used clothing, etc very differently than I do right now. Instead of engaging these three as a means of working with my situation, I used them as a way to block, deny, and cover over what was going on for me. I had a uniform: tan pants, dark t-shirt (both too big), no accessories, and a shaved head. I dressed this way for years in order to not acknowledge/engage the truth of how I felt inside. In order to kill how I felt, actually.
These days, however, I wear women's pants and underwear because they fit a bit tighter, and are softer and more flexible to boot. They feel better! I have a wide range of shirts, sweaters, and vests - different cuts, colours, styles - which allow me to dress a bit more for mood, which is helpful. My shoes and jackets all have a vaguely androgynous feel, not as much as I'd like but this is a work in progress.
In terms of accessories, I have one word for everyone: SCARVES! Oh my goodness these make a massive difference in both how I feel and look. I love fall and winter! I also have a few androgynous bracelets and am working up to earrings.
My once shaved hair is now shoulder length, which gives me some options in terms of styling. Like with my clothing, its nice to have options so I can fold in mood. I do ponytails, braids, and buns most days. Have yet to go get the kind of haircut I'd like, so keep the hair up in these ways. I really like the bun!
Other things worth noting? I care for my skin more. Shave my face every day, sometimes twice. Give much more care to sideburns and neck hair. Shave my body. Trim and file my nails (working up to clear gloss one day!).
In terms of my wish list in these areas? Beyond what's been mentioned, I am hoping to move more femme as time rolls on. This is especially true of my shoes and shirts - not wholly happy here, so I'm watching women out in the world and trying to figure out where to go next. I am considering a tattoo - a rose - but hate needles, so... Oh, and new glasses - but these are $$$ so, I'll keep cruising the thrift stores.