Public eye interviews and photo shots

[Tristan]

so i have been doing alot to hide lately and almost got outed by someone in a dangerous area. anyways it resulted in me getting a black eye and someone contacting me about maybe doing some photo shots and interviews. i was wondering if anyone else on this site has been approached about said chance. what im being told is this would be to show trans people as normal people and not people who look like men in a dress. after the recent indecent im honestly scared to do this and out myself. so if anyone else has been approached and is considering please let me know if you feel the same way. and for everyone else would you risk this?

[peky]

who is "somebody"? 

[Tristan]

i had someone stalking my facebook page. i always turn them down when they ask me out. they saw some trans related topics in my news feed from a very outspoken trans person and put 2 and 2 together. so they jumped me with a friend of theirs and punched me a few times in a local park. im leaving this particular place in a weeks o im ok but im just nervous about doing this interview and photo shot type thing as it would mean no more being stealth. so looking for input from others

[Cindy]

Unless you are very strong in mental toughness and extremely safe I would never do a shoot/interview like that. I would also take a bodyguard.

[Missadventure]

When dealing with the Media, especially in a situation like this, one must remember the immortal words of Don Henley:

"I make my living off the Evening News
Just give me something-something I can use
People love it when you lose,
They love dirty laundry"

All of which can be summed up as "The media loves a 'freak show'"... Don't sign up to be their freak.

[noeleena]

Hi,

Maybe not what many wont to do and being different again, you need to be strong mentaly and Emotionally, allso theres family concerns plus i live in New Zealand .and well known.

i was interviewed for TVNZ  Cambell live and Closeup at prime times , did interviews for our papers as well Nation wide  then it went around the world,  may / June 07,   and i had phone call's from friends going back over 55 years, people would stop or call out to myself and have a natter, concerning what i went through, talked to many 100's of people and took meetings the heading was noel to noeleena,who is a trans female,so with out going into all my detail this was for myself one of the best things i could have done , so that when people met or  meet me they knew my background and had accepted  who i am .

to allmost every one over night just called me noeleena, even though many knew myself as noel.  no issues no problems and every one i asked for help gave of themselfs willingly  for me,
My photo is of myself and as how people have seen me for over 9  years ,

Even though im intersexed it has not been a disadvantage  in fact helped  myself in many ways to be able to live as a normal woman, im very open and never tryed to hide who i was / am,

...noeleena.,..

[Tristan]

Ok thank you for the input. I'm not sure I have much input on the whole the media thinks we should pass thing . But now that I think about it that seems to be what this is about? Idk I think I'm not the strongest person mentally. I mean I'm fine with myself and all but if this goes badly I don't know what I would do? The bodyguard thing is also something I haven't thought about? I think I will pass on this, or at least tell them I need more time to decideZ if the site is upset behind the premise of showing people who supposedly pass more I don't want to contribute to alienating anyone

[calico]

Dang girl I'm sorry you got stalked and attacked.  It's completely understandable why you would have reservations about doing something they are asking  you to do.  Did you file charges on the individuals for assault? If not I would definitely be doing that for sure,  also another  header route to a bodyguard is a concealed carry, classes are fairly cheap and nothing makes people think twice then putting their own lives on the line... 

[Jamie D]

i had someone stalking my facebook page. i always turn them down when they ask me out. they saw some trans related topics in my news feed from a very outspoken trans person and put 2 and 2 together. so they jumped me with a friend of theirs and punched me a few times in a local park. im leaving this particular place in a weeks o im ok but im just nervous about doing this interview and photo shot type thing as it would mean no more being stealth. so looking for input from others

I am very, very sorry to hear that.  You are such a nice person.

If it were me, and I was trying to remain stealth, I would not do it.  Maybe the interview, but no recognizable photos.  Be clear about that ahead of time.

[Tristan]

It's ok. Things happen. I kinda knew better than to take the 8 week assignment In this particular rural area. And the person who got me outed is no longer on my Facebook. I didn't report it because that would result in everyone in this little town knowingly past. People talk in this area. And I do have a permit to carry but I figured it was safe to go running in the park since it was day time. I was in in a sports bra and shorts so no way to carry my gun. It won't happen again though. I'm not going to run alone anymore. And I did decide to do both, interviews and both photo shoots. They convinced me that this would be good to show others we are normal passing people. Plus playing volleyball and trying out for a good state team they said my name was going to come up in a piece anyways. Easier to do damage control if I tell my side and be open. Back to a larger south FloridA city