Hi Alex,
I've been sober for twenty-five years. Before that I was a pretty typical alcoholic, kind of like what you describe. Gender issues may have been a part of it, but the truth is I loved pretty much everything about drinking. For me sobering up was easy - I did it dozens if not hundreds of times. Living sober was pretty tough, impossible actually. I had to find community and guidance, for me that was AA. I still go to meetings, and participate. It is necessary for me even though I have been sober a long time. Just as my gender dysphoria was progressive, so was my alcohol addiction. Just as authenticity has helped me discover who I am in this context, AA and the steps of recovery changed my view of the world and my place in it and has given me the tools to live life on life's terms rather than mine. If you want to talk recovery, PM me and I'll give you my contact information. You are not alone in this, and there is both help and a solution. It is neither easy nor quick, but is is life affirming and sometimes life saving. Good luck and I hope to hear from you.
Julie