I am so sorry to hear that. That's just sounds so awful.
In a remote way, I know how it's like to be forced into something your not.
Thankfully but unfortunately for me, my mom raised my brother and I in a gender neutral environment.
I had a lot of confusion growing up. When I was 14, I learned about transsexuals and figured that's what I was.
Fast forward to July of last year, to when I came out as a transsexual. I started noticing that on or off estrogen, I didn't feel any different. So I started digging.
My brother told me about a friend of his, who was XXY and at first that seemed so, but I have high t count even on blockers. Which lead me to AIS. I got my results back a week ago. I don't have any known variations of the AR gene, but I do have an unknown variation.
Anyways, I hope you can find the peice you are searching for. And I agree, NO ONE should ever have to go through that.