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Started by confusedyoungcanadian, January 02, 2015, 11:50:58 PM

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confusedyoungcanadian

I don't know if this is the right section to post this, so forgive me if I've made a mistake. I'm not sure about my gender right now. I was born male, present as male, yet at times I feel like I'm not the correct gender. Mind you while growing up I didn't really have these feelings, but as a teenager I did a bit (in my late teens). Just before my 22nd birthday, I started to question it more and it's been bottled up for almost 3 years now (I turn 25 this year). I've always associated myself with strong women more-so then men, I tend to play almost always as female characters in video games (they are my special interest) when given the choice, I often wonder what it would be like to be a woman and I always have found that females have more options to dress (cooler clothing I would say, even though that probably sounds really silly).

Problem is I'm scared to death of telling my mom and dad that I've been having these feelings. Both my parents are pretty open to pretty much anything, as my older brother is Gay. Another problem is that I have Asperger's (it's on the Autism spectrum, I'm not sure if anyone here has heard of it before) and that I'm a pretty firm believer in God (I'm a Catholic, but my view of Jesus is that he loves everyone equally and would not condemn someone for their gender or sexuality, which I know makes no sense worrying about it). I'm just pretty confused right now figuring out who I am. Is it normal for this to go unnoticed as a child, but when I'm at this age in life for it to come up?

Apologies in advance if my train of thought seems random and I posted this in the wrong forum by mistake, I'm just feeling very confused right now.
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adrian

Hey there :) A warm welcome to Susan's.

It's ok to be confused -- take your time to work things out. We can help you by answering questions and giving support :).

There are quite a few of us with Asperger's here, I believe!

As for coming out -- I'm not sure how close you are to your brother, but maybe he would be someone to confide in?

Looking forward to seeing you around!

Oh, by the way, I didn't figure out I'm trans* until nearly 40....
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V M

Hi Confused  :icon_wave:

Welcome to Susan's  :)  Glad to have you here, join on in the fun

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Ms Grace

Hi, welcome to the forum! Rather than talking to your parents about it right now perhaps find a gender therapist or counsellor. Might help you to sort out some of your thoughts and feelings which will give you some idea of what you want to do and it'll make talking to your folks a lot easier.
Grace
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Catherine Sarah

Hi confused,

A big Aussie welcome to Susan's family. It's good of you to drop in and say "Hi". Hope you like it here, and you stay for a while.

There is a mountain of information, resources and friendship waiting for you here, you just need to jump in start talking and ask any question you like. You're quite safe here and we are very accepting.

Nothing really unusual with your journey so far. These feelings can happen at any age. As Grace mentioned a good gender therapist would serve you well at the moment. He/she should be able to throw a lot of light on the subject.

Looking forward to hearing more of your story in time to come, but in the meantime, be safe, well and happy.

Lotsa huggs
Catherine




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mrs izzy

Welcome Confused to Susan's family from Montreal

Lots of topics to explore and posts to read.

I echo the others getting into therapy.

It will help open up your world and lift the fog.

Be safe in your life's path.

Hugs
Mrs. Izzy
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