This is really annoying me now. I've been starting to come out to my friends and family, and every one of my friends who I've come out to now has said, "So you're getting surgery/ when are you getting surgery?/ etc.". Is that all that people think of when they hear of a transgender person? And then, what's worse, after I say not for a long while, if at all, they say, "Well you'll never be a man then. Why even use masculine pronouns?". That really stings.
Why is it so hard to think that someone can be called "he" without getting surgery first. My best friend of almost 10 years said, "Well if you don't get surgery you aren't a "he" then". I was really hoping for him to kinda understand more than that, but he didn't. I'm staying over at his house for almost 2 weeks over the summer (we live in different states now) so I was hoping to have him calling me "he" be then, but I'm not sure how to get him to do that now. I'm afraid to come out to my next close friend as well because he's a bit homophobic (only to gay men for some reason), but I'm already coming out to our other friends, who've asked if I was getting surgery.. all of this has really brought up a lot of dysphoria now. I'm just really frustrated that there have only been about 4 people who haven't asked about surgery and actual seem to get it, which is really awesome, but I was especially hoping my best friends would be more understanding.
Just a few days ago I told my parents to try to call me by masculine pronouns, but hearing them say 'she' even with it being so early still is upsetting. I can't even correct them without them getting kinda upset. They havent really done much to help me out, even after I've asked a million times for a therapist. They even told me that surgery was the only way to be a "real man" and that I'm physically a lesbian even if I identify as a straight man. Sorry, I just need to rant and vent. Thank you
