Dear Venessa,
I'm glad that you accept yourself and that you don't plan to hurt yourself. You say you have a "fear" and "feel threatened" by your mother: "The reason is she found some things bout me being a women and she had been avoiding the subject. And me all together. It is making me too scared to even be in the same room as her. To even hear her voice gives me a nervous stomaches."
I don't think your feelings of fear are unusual in the world of TS's and TG's, pre-transition or during transition. We fear our parents, our wives, our bosses, our coworkers. The sword in bed-thing is a visualization of that fear -- you're feeling defensive. You've said you "get the feeling that someone is behind me even though my back is to the wall. I am terrofied and dont know what to do."
Terror can only go on for so long and then you'll get exhausted. If you're like me, eventually you'll be so drained by it that you HAVE to talk about it, no matter what the consequences. Your mother is not being supportive but, I'm GUESSING that she feels she is doing her best to PROTECT you. When my ex would throw insults in my direction, she would always state that she was trying to save me. We ended up splitting up after 21 years of living together. To this day, I don't believe her critiques of me were meant to hurt. In her mind, I know she was trying to protect me from doing something that many in society deem dangerous and ill-conceived. She had felt bigotry as a child and so didn't want that to happen to me.
It could be that your mother, like my ex, will never change her mind in trying to protect you. Please don't be fearful of her. It could be, though it may not seem like it, that your mother is showing in the ONLY WAY SHE KNOWS that she loves you. Again, I'm guessing. Only you can look into her eyes and tell for sure.
Teri Anne