I received a bit of a shock yesterday when I received some legal documents pertaining to my divorce. I had assumed it was final nearly a year ago, and was stunned to find that I am in fact, still legally married. I have been separated from my spouse for over two years and have lived in a different state for over a year now. The papers were filed in California, and I currently live in New York State. This brings up a conundrum that I hadn't thought of when I was first served with the papers over a year ago. I changed my name and gender markers about six months before my ex filed for divorce. I informed my ex of this, yet she filed the papers under my old name, her theory was "I married (male name) I am divorcing (male name)". This has me wondering if my divorce will ever be legally recognized because of this discrepancy.
Has anyone else had experience with this situation?