Stalkers-tw

LexPromise · January 01, 2016, 03:43:45 PM

I'm being stalked and I am really scared right now.

Ms Grace · January 01, 2016, 03:53:03 PM

Keep a diary of everything they do. Take pictures and collect evidence. Have you spoken to the police?

LexPromise · January 01, 2016, 06:39:20 PM

Thank you. I am documenting and I have spoken with the police. I need more physical evidence. People know what is going on and they are trying to help. I am scared that this is going to end in physical violence. I have made multiple police reports and they are helping the best that they legally can. It is wearing down on me.

Ms Grace · January 01, 2016, 06:52:56 PM

I can only imagine how stressful it must be. I knew a guy who was being stalked, mostly online, by a woman he went on one date with (and, according to him, never slept with) but she decided he was the one for her and didn't take rejection well. Stalkers are obsessive people who rarely can be reasoned with - even the slightest contact with them flames the obsession.

You may have done some research already but maybe see if any of these links are of help
https😕/www.google.com.au/#q=dealing+with+stalkers

itsApril · January 01, 2016, 07:04:02 PM

Quote from: LexPromise on January 01, 2016, 03:43:45 PM
I'm being stalked and I am really scared right now.

So sorry to hear this! You might also want to talk with an attorney. In my state (California), there's a procedure to apply in court for an "order prohibiting civil harassment." It's like a domestic violence restraining order, but you don't have to show you are in a relationship with the person. It can just be against anybody who threatens your safety. Lots of states have some version of this. If you can get a court order, it might deter the stalker. But also, I think it would make the cops take your problem more seriously.

Please keep us posted. (Worried about you!)

LexPromise · January 02, 2016, 03:14:20 AM

Thank you. I went to IOP last night. This helps. They are supportive. I have a contact at victims of crime that I need to get a hold of on Monday. I also have a contact of someone who used to work for the courts and and knows the system. She's willing to go with me to the police and the court house. I am having a lot of problems with PTSD.

FTMax · January 03, 2016, 12:23:33 PM

In addition to everything recommended already, check out the book "The Gift of Fear" by Gavin de Becker. He is the leading expert on stalking and obsessive behavior in the US. I was a police officer for a few years, and I recommended that book to everyone who came in with any kind of stalking situation. The police and the courts can only help once certain parameters are met, but developing an understanding and means of protecting yourself is something you'll always have. It's a good book to read to start building those skills.

Tommi · January 05, 2016, 01:36:56 PM

Also, depending on the state you live in, consider obtaining a firearm and training. You may have to defend yourself against the physical violence you fear the stalking is heading towards.

LexPromise · January 07, 2016, 09:21:43 AM

Thank you. I am still working very closely with my IOP. They want me to go back to hospital because the PTSD and suicidality is really bad. The stalkers are yelling sexual bad stuff abuse at me and it triggers flashbacks. This makes the suicidality worse. I have to call them this morning.

Tysilio · January 07, 2016, 10:38:03 AM

It sounds like you're doing what you need to take care of yourself. I hope things get better for you soon. Hang in there.

Quote from: TommiAlso, depending on the state you live in, consider obtaining a firearm and training. You may have to defend yourself against the physical violence you fear the stalking is heading towards.

If you're feeling suicidal, this would not be a good idea. (You probably know this already, but... just sayin'.

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Tommi · January 07, 2016, 10:39:40 AM

Quote from: Tysilio on January 07, 2016, 10:38:03 AM
It sounds like you're doing what you need to take care of yourself. I hope things get better for you soon. Hang in there.

If you're feeling suicidal, this would not be a good idea. (You probably know this already, but... just sayin'. )

Agreed... that recommendation was posted before that... based on the fear of physical violence. Not trying to give bad advice to anyone!

LexPromise · January 09, 2016, 07:00:20 PM

Thank you. I appreciate your support. I am back in hospital since Thursday afternoon. I feel somewhat better and I am getting a break from the stalkers/bullies. The doctor increased my prozac and gave me an additional anxiety medicine. The staff are great. I feel comfortable speaking with them.

Tysilio · January 09, 2016, 07:35:05 PM

I'm very glad to hear that you're safe and starting to feel better. It sounds like you've done a great job of getting the support you need. That's not easy, and I hope you can give yourself credit for it -- you deserve that! Be well.

LexPromise · January 12, 2016, 05:54:22 PM

Thank you for your support. I was discharged this afternoon and have been home for a couple of hours. I feel exhausted. The hospital stay was great. The staff are supportive. I have appointments lined up. I feel scared and have a lot of concerns about the stalking. I need to be able to cope better in the long run.