Quote from: NikkiM on November 14, 2025, 08:23:07 PMA couple students decided to disrupt my class and be disrespectful to me. Called me transphobic slurs and that made the principal really mad including their parents. I do not want them in my class anymore and they are talking expelling them. Currently suspended for 10 days and an expulsion hearing is going to be scheduled. Talked to the counselor and she knows a good therapist to talk to I made an appointment with. Shaken up from it and told my husband what happened, he has been there for support. Staff and the principal have been there for me too, They had problems with them too
I am sorry to hear that, Nikki. Kids can be horribly cruel because they haven't got the life experience yet to teach them why it's a good idea to not be. Is why so many folks suffer bullying issues during childhood.
I think maybe a better course would be to educate these young people on what being trans actually means and what differences between people actually mean for everyone else, rather than just expelling them from an educational environment. I am not sure they'll want to learn, but maybe they should be given the chance. Being angry with kids is like water off a duck's back at that age, as it were. A lot see it as a badge of honour.
The important thing to realise, Nikki, is that this says more about these people than it does you. I know that's hard to accept when you're going through it. It erodes your self-esteem. But I'm going to say it anyway. You have to try and look at every experience from not only your own perspective, but from the perspective of the other people involved.
Did these people feel like their peers would respect them more if they did this? If so, why? Maybe they felt insecure within themselves and thought the only way they could get some measure of respect was to try to make you feel bad. Not trying to be your therapist here, honey, just to... I don't know, help you shift your perspective maybe so it doesn't affect you so much.
A vast majority of what we experience from others is not based on you at all. It's based on the person themselves and what they are going through. Kids especially are often going through a very tough time. Trying to fit in, find themselves etc. And they do some really dumb s**t because they feel it will garner respect.
If anything, Nikki, as a teacher, they need more education than anger and retaliation. Punishment does nothing if someone doesn't understand why they are being punished.
massive hugs This has likely very little to do with you, honey, and I hope you can find a way to not take it that way.
