Identifying as non-binary but still struggling

[modifiednaasac]

Hello all.

I mostly identify as an androgyne but quite frequently, I've been having moments where I wished to be viewed as more "tough" or more masculine. It doesn't help that I have a feminine face and slightly feminine hair which I don't mind and have to deal with due to certain circumstances. My question is how I do get over this feeling or doubt and are there some of you who feel this way too?

I'm not sure what to do. I don't know if I should have a more rugged attire, speak in a more low tone...? (I have a high pitched voice and laugh so damn loud, it's annoying)

I guess my main struggle is  I would like to have a of a more masculine swag or aura around me...I don't know. I still have some feminine traits but I want my masculine traits to outweigh them somedays.

[Amato]

I feel that way sometimes. Couldn't hurt to hop over to the ftm forums and see some of their passing tips to try and help you masculinize your presentation.

ps: as far as the doubt goes it never really went away for me, but I just kind of roll with it.

[modifiednaasac]

I feel that way sometimes. Couldn't hurt to hop over to the ftm forums and see some of their passing tips to try and help you masculinize your presentation.

ps: as far as the doubt goes it never really went away for me, but I just kind of roll with it.

That works. I never considered that. I guess some of their tips could work.

So you just roll with it? Do you just push those thoughts back and move on or...?

[Amato]

Kind of. I used to question every little thing that I felt and did, which only made me run in circles so eventually I had to stop since it wasn't productive. You can only get so many answers by thinking things through. At some point you have to just do stuff and see how it makes you feel.

I still have my insecurities. I just passively observe what feelings I feel as they happen and respond however feels right.

[modifiednaasac]

Kind of. I used to question every little thing that I felt and did, which only made me run in circles so eventually I had to stop since it wasn't productive. You can only get so many answers by thinking things through. At some point you have to just do stuff and see how it makes you feel.

I still have my insecurities. I just passively observe what feelings I feel as they happen and respond however feels right.

I always question everything I do. It's quite annoying. I think I'll probably have to try out some more things, see how I feel.

I still have my insecurities but it always tends to get the best of me. But I tend to put myself down more. It's sad, really. But I have to work on myself more.

[Amato]

Just experiment with your presentation and maybe record your reactions in a private journal. Try to have fun with it.