Hi there!
I've transitioned about 2 years ago and think sometime in the last year with the combination of FFS and hormones and lots of voice lessons, that I began passing, but...
How do I know for sure if I pass?
I know that's a silly question, and I understand that this is all subjective - that I might be passing to one person but not to another - but I only ever get "ma'am" or "miss" or when out with friends, "ladies", and never seem to get any judging stares or confused looks anymore like when I first started transition, unless it is by other females likely on a day where I dress a bit lazier than I normally do (girl's gotta wear hoodies and jeans sometimes...). But even on hoodie/jean days I still get ma'am'ed all the time.
I live in a rather liberal part of the US, so I often worry that proper gendering and smiles are a sign of kindness more so than viewing me as any other female, but perhaps this is just something I have to get over and stop being so worried that this could be a possibility?
How did other people deal with this sort of blurry line of passing vs. not passing? I've only been told to stop caring about what others think, but I can't manage to have this overall fear that I might not actually be passing yet.
Thanks!
