I know how you feel Alice, I have been through that in my life.
As a guy, I felt alienated, unable to really get involved in the conversations men had or really associate with how they felt and reacted. In a room full of people, I could be the loneliest person in the room. I had difficulty relating to most people because how I felt, wanted to relate to them was very much against how I was brought up and suppossed to relate. Life at times simply became going through the same painful motions on a daily basis.
It was depressing and I actually hated being the shy, lonely, introverted , unconfident guy. Fundementaly as beings we are social creatures and not being able to socialize was something I hated immensely.
For me it was transition that changed that. Having my emotions set free, to act how I felt, to express my feelings openly was a quantum leap in terms of social acceptance and fulfillment. Things have changed for the better and I am unrecognisable from the social outcast I used to be.
As for clothes, they where never high on my agenda, but on a daily basis now, I express how I feel, my moods by how I dress, jewellery I wear, something men do not have much freedom to do.
Rebecca