so, hi everyone! i was born male, 26, didn't really think much about my gender and stuff growing up. slowly over the years i've related more to femininity than masculinity, also in the way I think and feel about myself. i've also been "blessed" with wider hips than most guys, something i freaked out about at first when someone pointed it out, but came to love over the years. it always felt really good when I wore clothes that accentuated them.
I've noticed I could easily relate to trans girls as far as wanting to be more feminine, beautiful and "be something else", but not as far as transitioning or looking at myself as a girl.
lately i've been talking to someone who suggested that i may be genderqueer/non-binary and encouraged me to look more into it, well, that led to about 3 weeks of confusion, anxiety and bad stuff.
it's been a month since i first freaked out and i've learned a bit since then, i think genderqueer feels like the closest match, but there's still a lot of confusion sometimes.
like, i've noticed i don't like the idea of being typically masculine or a typical man, but maybe i just have a very traditional/hyper masculine stereotype in my head? i've also noticed i don't like being called a man (guy or boy is fine though, so maybe that's just more weird stereotypes or associations?)
being called "handsome" is "eh, whatever"
being called "cute" makes me feel amazing
i would prefer to have a more feminine body as far as hips, waist, legs, but i don't want breasts.
right now, I don't feel like moving between genders as much as nudging everything towards the feminine, but i don't want to pass as a girl. i think I'm fine just wearing more feminine "guy clothes": longer shirts and sweaters, softer colours and so on. Girls clothes and makeup I'm not sure of, although i recently had the urge to try makeup or clothes to cheer me up when I was feeling depressed, that thought came out of nowhere and scared me.
i don't know how much dysphoria I have, if any, I'm mostly fine with the way my body is, but I'm sometimes terrified of getting older and losing my femininity, losing my hair or becoming something I don't want to be. i've also started trimming my body hair more regularly, luckily it's pretty light, I'd probably feel worse if it was dark.
i don't feel comfortable yet expressing myself in a more feminine way out in public, but i'm slowly experimenting with things alone.
i'm still afraid i'm going to look weird or not be able to be like the image i have of myself in my head, though.