I am 31 years old and up until my current partner, I had always dated cis males and I am cis female. So, I never had to deal with people and their bigoted opinions aimed at myself or my partner.
However, I am now engaged to a transfemale. And I am finding it frustrating dealing with people. She isn't out of the closet, so people don't know about her just yet (she intends to transition though, so one day they will). But, my co-workers bash on homosexuals and transgender people at work. They think it makes a person unfit to be around kids and were happy when their church ran a lesbian woman out of church. And this isn't just the lower level employees, the boss actually uses the phrase "God made Adam and Eve, not Adam and Steve". It makes me cringe... more so because they insult the person I love, more than me, but also because if they knew about us then my job would be at risk, as there are no legal protections in my state. And, I am in school to become a teacher, so parents feeling like I would be unfit to be around their children could put my entire career at risk.
On top of the work issues, my family will mostly not approve when they find out. My mom accepts it, but is weirded out by it. She said she can't understand how I could want to be with someone that wears dresses and wants a female body. But, she tries to make my partner feel OK walking around the house (I currently live with my mom, as I can't afford to pay high rent while I finish my degree) in her female clothes, so she's trying. My grandmother will never accept it. My Aunt will accept it in private, but her husband hates LGBT people so she'll never voice support.
How do other people handle being around such prejudice all the time ? I just want to go to work and do my job, but because of the people I work with, one day I ended up leaving my lunch break and finishing my food in the storage closet just to get away from their hate filled conversations. If it was just me they were unintentionally insulting, I wouldn't be as bothered... but I don't like anyone insulting my fiancee. She is the sweetest, most respectful person and incredibly strong, because she deals with worse all the time and has her whole life. If someone says something with her around, it is going to be really hard to resist the urge to snap their heads off for it (figuratively speaking, anyway). And even worse, I have to be around her family, who doesn't know and is transphobic... biting my tongue if they say something to her...
*sigh* Why can't people just stop being so cruel to each other?