Hello, first off this will be a sort of long post and looking back on what I've written you it's mostly dumb anyway, so feel free to skip to the TLDR.
I've been having an extremely hard time lately and wanted a bit of advice. I have very little doubt that I'm trans but I just can't bring myself to do anything about it. It's crippling my dating life (as in I've turned down everyone who's ever asked me out because I'm not comfortable with the role I'm expected to fill)(a fact that has damaged my relationship with my father who tries to live vicariously through me) and I've already come out to my mother but there's a massive roadblock, my job. I've only ever had one job, I'm a professional boxer. When I say that I love boxing that doesn't come close to explaining things, I've spent more money on boxing equipment then I did on my car, it's on my mind practically every waking moment and most importantly, I'm legitimately extremely happy when I'm doing it. I love training, I love sparring, and I love fighting. It's really the only thing that keeps me going, whenever I start to think about things I don't want to (This being the number one thing) I just go box and the thoughts leave. Even writing this my heart is fluttering, I can't help but smile just thinking about boxing. I can't lose boxing. It is everything to me.
But I don't think I can just live off of boxing either. Whenever I can't train, like when I'm trying to go to bed I just feel so full of self hatred and can't help but cry and then I feel like a pathetic loser for being so weak. This has lead to me staying up until 4 or 5 in the morning before waking up at 8 to start training. Whenever I take time to eat I feel horrible, so I started eating just one meal a day to minimize the time I'm not training. I never hang out with my friends and I don't have much of a relationship with my family because I just can't let myself think. If I'm not training I usually listen to boxing matches in my headphones (Frazier V Foreman is my personal favorite), without my headphones I'm just so tense and I start to feel like I'm going to cry again. I feel like I'm in a downward spiral, I can't even drive without thinking of all the things I could crash into to make my brain shut up. I've been to a therapist before and she diagnosed me with depression but I stopped seeing her after that because I was worried I'd lose my boxing license. I'd rather not see another.
When I let myself follow my thoughts about if I were a girl, it feels nice. But then I remember boxing and my brain gets flooded with all the reasons I need to be a man. I need to box, I need to make my parents proud. If I wasn't a guy I'd have nothing. I'd have no money, I have no identity without boxing, I'd still be stuck with no friends and I'd lose my only reason to live. And then I end up arguing with myself, 'I'm too tall to look like a girl anyway' (6'2"), 'but I've always had a really small frame with narrow shoulders and a small waist' (I fight at welterweight, 147 lbs), 'but I'm probably too old for it anyway' (I just started college). I just don't know what to do. When it comes to that 'if there was a button you could click that would instantly change your sex would you click it?' probably, but I just can't say for sure I wouldn't regret it.
Sorry about the long post, and an even bigger apology if I put this in the wrong section or something along those lines. I know that strangers on the internet can't tell me everything about what I should do, but I'd really appreciate a bit of advice. Thanks for taking the time to read this.
T.L.D.R. How should you handle a massive aspect of your life holding you back from doing anything about being trans?