I really need help.

[Ivy_Gizmo17]

Hello, I am Ivy. Or as my birth certificate knows me also as Ian. I am currently 17 years old and have always been the brightest crayon in the box whether I was playing with friends, or even watching television. As a child, I wanted to do what most girls did but was told that it wasn't right. I would put my grandmother's towels on my head and secretly dress up in her heels and feel like I was normal. And whenever I was caught I'd get the same response that no boys wear makeup or dress up in girls clothes. But deep down, I knew that wearing girls clothing only made me feel more at home. I had recently tried to come out but every time I do, my family insists that I'm making a character when I'm trying to tell them that this is who I really am. It is painful to live in a family that always tells you stereotypical things of what people should and shouldn't do. But it isn't fair to me when I feel like doing what girls do is normal and then i get told what I'm doing is abnormal. Please someone just help me so I can explain that I want to be the little girl I am deep down inside and have been all my life. 😞

[Dena]

Welcome to Susan's Place. Unfortunately there isn't a good argument that deals with difficult cases. Your best option is to know as much as possible when you have a discussion with your parents. The site WiKi has answers to most any question that could be asked. Another possibility is "the transition channel" which could help you understand your feelings better and help you explain them to others. This can take time so don't get discouraged and sometimes nothing works. Good luck and let us know if we can help.

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[Allison S]

Hi, Ivy.
You got this. I know it's a huge obstacle to have an unaccepting family. I lived that myself, in a way I still do. I think many people can relate.
When you have a towel on your head, does your family perceive that as you "playing a character?"
I'm just trying to understand where they get that idea, because it doesn't sound to me like an act. At least not from what you've shared.

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[Northern Star Girl]

Hello, I am Ivy. Or as my birth certificate knows me also as Ian. I am currently 17 years old and have always been the brightest crayon in the box whether I was playing with friends, or even watching television. As a child, I wanted to do what most girls did but was told that it wasn't right. I would put my grandmother's towels on my head and secretly dress up in her heels and feel like I was normal. And whenever I was caught I'd get the same response that no boys wear makeup or dress up in girls clothes. But deep down, I knew that wearing girls clothing only made me feel more at home. I had recently tried to come out but every time I do, my family insists that I'm making a character when I'm trying to tell them that this is who I really am. It is painful to live in a family that always tells you stereotypical things of what people should and shouldn't do. But it isn't fair to me when I feel like doing what girls do is normal and then i get told what I'm doing is abnormal. Please someone just help me so I can explain that I want to be the little girl I am deep down inside and have been all my life. 😞

@Ivy_Gizmo17
Hello Ivy, I see that you are new here and may have questions and concerns, this is the right place for you to be to find out what others have done that may have been in your circumstances. 
Be aware that there are lots of members here that can identify with the issues that you brought up in your introduction posting. 

I see that @Dena  has already posted her welcome message to you.... 
...but please allow me to also WELCOME YOU to Susan's Place.  You will find this a safe and friendly place to share with others about your transition and to read about others transitions and their trials, tribulations, and successes in their transition journey. 
It is nice that you have signed up so you can share with others and involve yourself with some give and take with other members.
When frustrated or if you have a successful moment in your journey you can share it here if you wish and receive support from others and offer support to others. ....

***It's a very good chance that you might find that you will make some new friends here. 

Please come in and get involved at your own pace.  Be sure to look at the LINKS that @Dena posted in her reply, there is information about the site that will help you navigate around and best utilize the features here.
Again, Welcome to Susan's Place.
Danielle

[Northern Star Girl]

@Ivy_Gizmo17
Dear Ivy: Oh an another thing... to let more members here know of your arrival and therefore you will receive more involvement in sharing information of interest to you with others.

Please go to the Introductions Forum to tell the members about yourself!

If you are one of our younger members, please go to the Youth Introductions Forum.

Again, Welcome to Susan's Place,
Danielle

[Lilly G]

Ivy, im sorry about your family. I live in a similar position. I still havemt figured out what to do(family all calls me Thomas) and ots been so much negativity and hate from them(my parents) that o began to ignore thwm for my own mental health. Its sad to say that none of what i tried worked...arguing and moving out wont help is all i can say.