Hi everyone. A double standard that really infuriates me is the fat guy/girl thing. If a girl isn't thin she's considered ugly, lazy or a slob. I'm not talking about an obese woman, I mean any woman who isn't model thin. But unless a guy is over 300lbs nothing is said about him. I was at the store yesterday in the checkout lane. In front of me there were 3 guys probably my brother's age. Two of the guys were jacked and one of them was a fat guy. In the lane across from me was a very pretty but overweight woman. She wasn't like circus fat or anything, maybe 25-30 pounds overweight. The fat guy starts calling her fat ass and cow. Then he said she was so fat even the tide wouldn't take her out. The other guys weren't saying anything but they were laughing. That poor woman heard that guy. I could just see the hurt on her face. She looked like she was about to cry. Then the fat guy said " MOOO" very loudly and was laughing.
I told him he needed to stop. He said " but she is a cow. It's not my fault she likes to eat". That pissed me off to the point I lost control a little. I said " I know you're not fat shaming someone . Hanging out with buff guys doesn't make you one of them. You look like a beach ball with legs". That made his 2 friends burst out laughing. The guy looked like I had slapped him. I asked him how it felt to have someone make fun of him. He didn't open his mouth again. I know I shouldn't have said that and doing so put me on his level but I couldn't help it, I lost my temper.
This isn't the first time I've seen this double standard. In high school fat guys would make fun of overweight girls. And sometimes the guys making fun of them were a lot fatter than the girl! And girls were just as bad. They would be viscous toward overweight girls. But unless a guy was circus fat nothing was said to the overweight guys. Until about a year ago my uncle was overweight. He always had weight problems until my dad managed to teach him a workout routine. Once when he was at our house he was looking at women on a dating site. He was saying " no, she's fat" or "She's a whale". I asked him if he was really rejecting overweight women and he said yes he was and that he wasn't into " fat chicks". I asked him if he didn't have mirrors at his house because HE WAS FAAAATTT! He said he was a guy and that he was "stocky" not fat. So an overweight woman is a fat slob but an overweight guy is stocky or husky? Then he said I didn't have any room to criticize him because Tristan was totally jacked so I was just as shallow as he was. But Tristan was like that when I met him. I wouldn't have turned him down if he hadn't been jacked. I will admit that I like muscular guys but I never specifically sought out jacked guys and I wouldn't have turned down a guy who wasn't.
How did this double standard get started? Girls are dying from eating disorders trying to be thin but if a guy is fat or flabby it's totally ok. That really pisses me off! It's just as bad as a promiscuous woman being a Slut but a promiscuous guy being a big stud. AGHHH!