Sylvia, it makes perfect sense. I still have bad dysphoria, however, just having breasts that I can look down and see makes a huge difference. For me, I wish that were enough. I think in our situation it would be easier if I could stay the 'old me' on the outside while hidden under articles of clothing is the 'real me'. If knowing the changes are there without having them 'on display' is enough for him, that's great.
I've spent my life wanting more, no matter what I had, I wanted more .. just one more thing. Nothing was quite enough. Now with these changes, I want more. But it's different this time. Lori say, "You've always wanted more". I cannot disagree. This time though .. I
need more. I can tell the difference, she cannot.
Don't mistake me, Lori is my rock and she's supportive and helpful beyond any expectation that I could have or have any right to. However, she still prefers old me. I cannot fault her that, I understand completely. Someday over time perhaps we can get to the 'same thing only different' stage where's she's just as happy with new me as she was with old me. I can only hope at this point.
I suppose I should state, she prefers 'old me' in looks. My mood improvements, overall more relaxed and happy, and other emotional/personality type changes she is quite happy with. Although, she still finds it odd when I break down and cry. A role reversal she wasn't expecting
Me doing dishes and laundry without prompt or second thought came as a surprise, for both of us. I even make the bed in the morning (except when she's still in it). I can't stand to see it all wadded up.
I'm digressing
Take care,
Faith