@Debi, what a great occasion for you: marrying your transgender partner to whom you've been married for 30-some years. I love your wedding photo, and your description of your honeymoon as you travel the coast visiting virtual friends (as described on a different thread). I also love your upbeat response to Tia's transition. I, too, am delighted to discover that I truly am not inclined to bigotry, and I am so in love with my spouse that I don't care if she turns into a frog; I will always protect and cherish her.
I wonder if you know what I'm talking about when I share my confoundedness: it's not right that women are more privileged than men. For example, I can put on a flannel shirt and old jeans, and haul a 60-lb. bag of gravel, then wash up and put on a flowy or slim dress with earrings, and do something nice with my hair, and my appearance and behavior are perfectly accepted. On the other hand, a man has a very limited range of colors and fabrics that he can use for clothing, and he has to be the tough 60-lb. gravel-bag hauler, no matter what he's wearing. As a woman, I have a wide range of acceptable gender fluidity, while men's is teensy. Why would I want my spouse to be trapped in such a limited range of socially-acceptable behavior? I love being a woman during this time in history, and welcome her to be one, too. What do you think?
Again, I'm glad that you are here, Debi, and I look forward to reading more of your story and thoughts.