Quote from: Emma1017 on September 06, 2018, 09:41:06 AM
One of the hardest things has been for me to accept that I am transgender.
I keep hoping I am wrong, that it will go away or that there is a cure. I know that I am stupid to keep hoping for things that can't happen but I still can't wrap my head around it.
If I can't how can I expect others in my life to?
I look in the mirror and just see a 62 year old guy...sigh
Hi Emma, 14 September 2018
I'm relatively new here and I probably don't have enough experience or creds to be offering advice to you or anyone for that matter, though I'm going to try.
Those of us that are trans developed differently while in utero; if MTF our bodies received testosterone and our brains received estrogen. The end result is we are transgender. We were dealt a hand of cards. In that hand are a Queen and a King. This is something you should look at as a plus. We have an option that cis people don't readily have. If we so choose, we can change from male to female to align our bodies with our brains.
We have to keep in mind we only have one life to live while on this planet. We have a right and an obligation to be happy.
Before you do anything else I'd recommend that you find a professional counselor that specializes in Transgender issues and is hopefully MTF transgender themselves. They can help guide you and your spouse, but first see the counselor by yourself. They can help you bring your wife on board.
I think you will be pleasantly surprised at how accepting your wife and children will be of your decision to transition.
If I were you, I wouldn't worry about being 62. you are only as old as you think. I think you are probably one of the youngsters here. It's only too late when they are shoveling dirt onto us. You have adequate time, believe me.
A little background on me; I started attending counseling 08 March 2018, I've been here at Susan's Place since 15 March 2018, began HRT 27 March 2018, and Orchiectomy surgery 13 April 2018. I've been living full time as a woman for almost 7 years. The only things I don't do are to wear dresses and try to pass as a female due to current physical limitations. In time those issues will be dealt with. I want to wait for the HRT to do its work before I do the rest of mine.
Best of luck on your journey to being who and what you want to be. You are in a good place with lots of fine folks that can help you along the way.
Best Always, Love
Christine
PS:
Almost forgot to mention that I turned 78 years young this past August. Take care young lady.