Quote from: Emma1017 on May 24, 2019, 10:23:45 AM
I have to stop thinking of it as my problem and share with her, simply me. Emma has always been a part of me and our relationship. She is not a threat.
It will always be us.
Hugs,
Emma
Oh, I absolutely love this, Emma. If you enter your discussion thinking that you are bringing misery or heartbreak, she may very likely see it that way as well. I like to think of it as you bringing a challenge to both of you as a couple. Stupid guilt and past shame are exactly the wrong way to approach this. If you can let go of that and show her that this is just a bit of a do over or a bright new beginning (no modification is better word) then your chances of success are greatly improved.
Kim, I continually marvel at your strength!
Hey kids, I really think this is a great group of ladies on this thread. I wish we could all actually hang out in person. We could have kind of a
Weekend at Berney's where the dead guy is our old shame and guilt personified as Berney.
I had kind of a cool thing happen at work if I can share. I went swimming with students for the first time as me at work. Later a coworker who was also there came up to me and told me that she really admired what I had done. "I know it took guts to do that." I said that no, at this point that is no big deal to me. If someone looks at me weird or something, well, screw them. She said, no that I looked great but that she really admired everything I had done to become who I really am and that she loved me. Now this is not someone I was ever close with, in fact, she being a bit on the conservative side of things, I wasn't sure if she would outright reject me. I have to say that it made me feel pretty good that she said all this. I really feel that this thing we do, this struggle to become who we really are, inspires a lot of people. I have had a lot of people confess admiration for stepping up and fighting to be who I really am. Pretransition, I could not have imagined that. I suspect that many, many people have their own non-trans struggles to be themselves, and our highly visible battle is something they admire. I now return you to your regularly scheduled program.