Discovering My Sexuality After I Was 30 Was Confusing. This Is What I Wish I Kne

[Michelle_P]

Not transgender, but a broader look at sexuality and orientation, often a popular topic on this site.

Discovering My Sexuality After I Was 30 Was Confusing. This Is What I Wish I Knew
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"Identity is a journey," educator and activist Robyn Ochs tells Bustle. "There's a lot of cultural pressure to be certain about everything ... The idea that somehow uncertainty or changing your identity is a problem or a weakness; I believe it's a strength. It takes strength to be open to new information."
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Michelle Paquette, a 65-year-old transgender woman, thought she was only attracted to women until she was in her sixties.
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https://www.bustle.com/p/discovering-my-sexuality-after-i-was-30-was-confusing-this-is-what-i-wish-i-knew-13168529

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[Maid Marion]

I've been finding lots of great stuff to read on Bustle.

[Lisa_K]

My question is how done discovering your sexuality are you? If you have "found it" is that it, over and done and settled?

I transitioned as a teenager. I've been "discovering" my sexuality since then. I'll be 64 in a couple of days. There's things I'm still discovering and I hope I never figure it out.

[Michelle_P]

My question is how done discovering your sexuality are you? If you have "found it" is that it, over and done and settled?

I transitioned as a teenager. I've been "discovering" my sexuality since then. I'll be 64 in a couple of days. There's things I'm still discovering and I hope I never figure it out.

I don't known if we ever stop!  We do seem to change in so many ways as time goes by, and what I enjoy at 65 is rather different than what I enjoyed at 35!   I think that being open and honest with ourselves, being willing to examine even thoughts and impulses that make us feel a bit uncomfortable, leads to an infinite supply of self-discovery.

[Linde]

My question is how done discovering your sexuality are you? If you have "found it" is that it, over and done and settled?

I transitioned as a teenager. I've been "discovering" my sexuality since then. I'll be 64 in a couple of days. There's things I'm still discovering and I hope I never figure it out.

I think that depends on the individual.  I always knew that I was only interested in women  (no matter if you call it hetero or lesbian - because I do  not know what would be appropriate for me), I had absolutely never any interests in sexual encounters with anybody else but human women!  This was my orientation for most of my life.  I am now asexual for many years, with a lesbian leaning, still no interests in any male encounters.  If, for some reason, i will not be asexual any more, I hope my interests in women will be my sexual orientation again!

Yes, I was done a long time ago (actually since I had sexual desires) to discover my sexuality!

[Sophiaprincess2019]

Sexuality is a personal decision and people who are questioning themselves should have boundaries and moral compasses to guide them.