Quote from: Sky1090 on January 07, 2019, 05:45:13 PM
After talking to my fiancé, it seems my mother definitely knows. She talked to my mom away from me yesterday. My mom confided in her and told her that she is okay with gay but transgender is a different story. She says god doesn't make mistakes and you are what you are. Period.
I actually agree. If there is a god, they didn't make a mistake. I was created perfectly unique and I am what I am. Period. She already knows I'm not religious. She says it's sad that I don't live a faith based life and chose to believe scientific studies and research instead. Idk. It's not going to be easy with her and my dad. All I ask for now is their respect. I don't care if I ever get support but I just want them to respect me and my beliefs
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@Sky1090 Coming out and gaining acceptance, especially from our own parents, can be a very difficult endeavor for most transitioners... and please believe when I tell you that many times when finding out that their offspring is going down the transition journey it can be much more difficult for them that it is for you to finally inform them of your life plans. Have patience with them.
The comment reply that you got from
@KathyLauren is the right way to proceed in my opinion:
Quote from: KathyLauren on January 07, 2019, 07:05:33 AM
That sounds like a good plan. Hints and wondering are not good communication strategies. If you tell her, then she'll know, and you will know how she feels about it. Keeping it inside is clearly hurting you.
Getting this off of your chest with you parents and when you come-out to others as time goes by is like a big weight is lifted off of your shoulders each time that you do it... and it will become somewhat easier every time you do it.
One thing that I truly believe in regarding your parents, is yes, they need to respect your beliefs, BUT if they do not and are still not accepting you, you do need to continue to respect and love them as your parents... they will always be your parents and you do not want regrets later on in life for words spoken in the heat of the moment... heated arguments and angry talk will not win you any points. I have personal experience to back up what I just stated... so please do your best to be respectful.
I am wishing you well in your journey...
Thank you for sharing and posting. Please keep us updated if you feel so led... we are here to lend an ear and a shoulder to lean on when the news is not so good, and when you give a good report we will rejoice and be happy with you. We are your biggest fans and we are always rooting for your success.
Hugs and well wishes,
Danielle