Label me...CD?

[Ms. Wendy]

So forgive me if this is some kind of faux pas for some reason, but...

Um, so I'm at a place now where I'm ready to embrace and be honest about my sexuality in terms of CD and so on. (I'm not down with the lingo, so bear with me.)

I just want to get some feedback and perspective about where I'm coming from. I'm not even sure how to refer to it or myself. You know how it is -- you feel it, you indulge in it, but you don't really integrate it into your mainstream lifestyle.

I enjoy women's apparel. I'm not convincing, and for my daily life it's going to stay that way. I'm single, I'm not hiding anything. But, y'know, people just can't get a grip with some things, right? Still, I like my body. I just like being a dash -- a dollop -- feminine during intercourse.

But the thing is, I do it for the sexual thrill. There's a gay sauna in my city, and I sometimes go there. I wear panties and thigh-high leggings, and I love being felt up, playing around, and hooking up that way. It's just my thing.

So I guess what I mean to say is, how can I describe my sexuality? I'm looking for kindred spirits to sound it out with.

Again -- bear with me. I'm literally at square one.

[Northern Star Girl]

So forgive me if this is some kind of faux pas for some reason, but...

Um, so I'm at a place now where I'm ready to embrace and be honest about my sexuality in terms of CD and so on. (I'm not down with the lingo, so bear with me.)

I just want to get some feedback and perspective about where I'm coming from. I'm not even sure how to refer to it or myself. You know how it is -- you feel it, you indulge in it, but you don't really integrate it into your mainstream lifestyle.

I enjoy women's apparel. I'm not convincing, and for my daily life it's going to stay that way. I'm single, I'm not hiding anything. But, y'know, people just can't get a grip with some things, right? Still, I like my body. I just like being a dash -- a dollop -- feminine during intercourse.

But the thing is, I do it for the sexual thrill. There's a gay sauna in my city, and I sometimes go there. I wear panties and thigh-high leggings, and I love being felt up, playing around, and hooking up that way. It's just my thing.

So I guess what I mean to say is, how can I describe my sexuality? I'm looking for kindred spirits to sound it out with.

Again -- bear with me. I'm literally at square one.

@Ms. Wendy
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[Northern Star Girl]

@Ms. Wendy
Oh, and another thing Wendy...
Please plan to write a post and tell us more about yourself in the Introductions Forum so that other members will be aware of your arrival... therefore you will be able to share your thoughts with more members here.
     
Thank you again for joining Susan's Place and being involved in the Forums here.
Best wishes to you,
Danielle
NOTE: Now after all of this Greeting Stuff I will let you have this thread back so that the exchange of conversation, thoughts and questions can continue.
Other members here will certainly be along to give you their comments and suggestions that you may be seeking

[Rayna]

Hi Wendy,

As you read around the site you'll find that generally sexuality is separate from gender.  Sexually you are attracted to men.

But what is your gender? You might be gender-fluid like me (Assigned Male at Birth or AMAB), where sometimes I present as male, sometimes as female, and much of the time as something in between. For me, this is unrelated to my sexuality, which is solely attracted to women.

People have every possible combination of these, and they are all Ok. If you're comfortable with yourself, and not putting yourself or others in danger, it's all good.

The label CD (cross-dresser) to me does not imply anything about sexuality or sexual practices. I crossdress as female part of the time. Some others crossdress as male. But I think of sexuality as a separate dimension.

If you want to label yourself, I'm probably not much help. But you can just be you, without a label if you want.

[CindyLouFromCO]

It sounds like you have a fetish that you enjoy.

I guess CD could be considered a fetish.  I guess that depends on the person.  Some people CD because they are on the gender spectrum and don't do it for sexual reasons.

There are all sorts of dress up fetishes.  From leather to costumes.

If you are transgender and decided to transition into a female the odds of you hanging out with gay guys having sex will be less and less.

The first person to tell me to start wearing a bra was my gay friend because it grossed him out seeing my nipples.

[sally0196]

Hi Wendy,

I think what Randy wrote pretty much sums things up, and I think she is absolutely correct that a person's sexuality, or sexual orientation is separate and apart from gender.  Consequently, we probably shouldn't try to define one by the other.  I also agree that labels aren't really important, and in fact, they can be mostly problematic.  I recommend not trying to assign yourself a label.  You are who you are, and sometimes labels, no matter how many you try, just don't fit.

Finally, enjoy who you are.  As long as you aren't hurting anyone else, you should feel free to be who you are. 

Welcome to this site.

Hugs,

Sally

[Finding Lauren]

CindyLou,

Wow, being told to wear a bra, being shamed into covering yourself hits me.  That must have started you questioning yourself.
I tried Fenu Greek oil on my nipples.  It was said to help girls make their nipples more sensitive.  Mmm, and it also made me feel the need to wear soft camisoles to cover them.  I feel softer and feminine, just being sensitive.


Lauren