Wanting to have experiences before further transitioning

[123trans]

I'm kind of in a difficult place in my life right now and I'm kind of stressed about it. I'm a trans woman and I don't have much experience sexually. I was seeing another trans woman recently for only about a month. Things were great physically, but I won't get into details of why I broke up with her.

One part of it though, and I stress just one part, is that I've never had "regular" sex with a cis woman, and it's something I want to experience before deciding on bottom surgery. I'm almost 30 and I'm just really embarrased that it's never happened and the further I go into my transition I feel like the less I'd be able to perform anyways, but I am happy with the physical changes overall, besides how it might affect this one thing.

I guess I'm just looking for some sort of encouragement or validation. I am getting therapy but I seem to worry a lot about this one thing.

[GingerVicki]

I would suggest to let things happen naturally.

[Kirsteneklund7]

Call an escort and sort it out. Nobody gets hurt that way and it will remove the what if factor.

Kirsten x.

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[Maddie]

Seems totally valid for you to want this.

Personally don't want to encourage or discourage you.


plz b careful

[krobinson103]

Call an escort and sort it out. Nobody gets hurt that way and it will remove the what if factor.

Kirsten x.

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If it was me and I just wanted to see what it was like this sounds like a good plan.

[123trans]

I'm pretty uncomfortable with this honestly but I do support sex work. I feel like it won't mean anything to me. I'd rather know someone first.

[Kirsteneklund7]

I'm pretty uncomfortable with this honestly but I do support sex work. I feel like it won't mean anything to me. I'd rather know someone first.

You will have to tell them up front. There is no such thing as no strings attached.

With kind regards, Kirsten.

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[krobinson103]

I'm pretty uncomfortable with this honestly but I do support sex work. I feel like it won't mean anything to me. I'd rather know someone first.

I found my forever partner (cis gender female) but I was honest from the first. You will find that there are many who will run a mile...

[123trans]

You will have to tell them up front. There is no such thing as no strings attached.

With kind regards, Kirsten.

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I don't think this is a hard rule. For some women it's a turn off/or they're put off by it for various reasons.

[Kirsteneklund7]

I don't think this is a hard rule. For some women it's a turn off/or they're put off by it for various reasons.

In any case her long term satisfaction and feelings matter. I have made the mistake of thinking its only a fling. I wish I could have done certain romances better.

Kirsten

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[Maddie]

In any case her long term satisfaction and feelings matter.

Yes.

[123trans]

In any case her long term satisfaction and feelings matter. I have made the mistake of thinking its only a fling. I wish I could have done certain romances better.

Kirsten

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Yes for sure, glad you clarified. Wasn't as sure what you meant on your prior post.

[123trans]

I am very open to a relationship too in general and things progressing naturally. I'm just anxious this hasn't happened yet.

What's wrong with exploring my sexuality before I make a big decision?

[GingerVicki]

I would suggest to let things happen naturally.

OH geez! I wouldn't call an escort not because you could catch something, but because it is not a true experience. It is a paid experience and they will do what you pay them to do.