A leap of faith

[Lilis]

Same, I discovered that my bisexuality, queerness, and attraction patterns became clearer as my gender journey evolves, and I see it as a strength to acknowledge this fluidity.

Best wishes on your journey, Mandy!

~ Lilis 💕🌷

[Mandy Spencer]

Thanks so much Lilis - yes, definitely a strength - and something that can't be repressed for too long, although I tried. Once the genie's out of the bottle it's exciting to experience - for example, although I'm attracted to men and women (and other genders!) and it's definitely sexual, the attraction comes in different 'flavors.'

  🩷💕 Mandy

[Maid Marion]

I found it very helpful to talk to my wife about transitioning.  Setting some ground rules about what you can and can't do will do a lot to relieve the stress on your relationship.  My wife would offer her perspective on what it was like growing up female in California.

[Lilis]

Thanks so much Lilis - yes, definitely a strength - and something that can't be repressed for too long, although I tried.

You're welcome, Mandy. 💕

Well, from the moment we're born, most of us are told, directly or indirectly, that we have to be one thing, either straight or gay, either a man or a woman.

One gender. One orientation no in between.

And if we don't fit neatly into those boxes, we're labeled as confused, or at least, I was. 

But the truth is, that kind of rigid, binary thinking leaves no room for bisexuality which, by nature, lives in the fluid space between and beyond the binaries.

It isn't confusion, it's complexity, depth, and honesty.

IMO

~ Lilis 💕🌷

[Mandy Spencer]

I found it very helpful to talk to my wife about transitioning.  Setting some ground rules about what you can and can't do will do a lot to relieve the stress on your relationship.  My wife would offer her perspective on what it was like growing up female in California.

Hi Marion - thanks for responding, yeh, well that's the elephant in the room. She doesn't know. We're not getting on well generally - although the reality is that my female self is coming through increasingly and it's not going back. It's procrastination, for sure.

[Mandy Spencer]

You're welcome, Mandy. 💕

Well, from the moment we're born, most of us are told, directly or indirectly, that we have to be one thing, either straight or gay, either a man or a woman.

One gender. One orientation no in between.

And if we don't fit neatly into those boxes, we're labeled as confused, or at least, I was. 

But the truth is, that kind of rigid, binary thinking leaves no room for bisexuality which, by nature, lives in the fluid space between and beyond the binaries.

It isn't confusion, it's complexity, depth, and honesty.

IMO

~ Lilis 💕🌷

Thanks so much for your thoughtful comments, Lilis. So true. My masculine self is still there and expresses - I enjoy it often, and yet, also, I wish to be female and assume a female form on a physical, permanent basis. Unexpected things flower - if I find a woman particularly attractive, it's like a switch flips and the desire becomes to BE her - or at least have her physical form - it's hard to describe. I guess we all have our own experiences - and I don't doubt that a much higher proportion of the population exist outside the constraints of the 'straight' spectrum than statistics claim, in reality. 

Love,
Mandy. 💖 

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[Mandy Spencer]

Obviously have not posted for a while. 'Progress' has been slow in the sense of not coming out- but my self-expression, being comfortable in my own skin as Mandy and not trying to force things, grows. I'm in a situation now where it is much easier to express my femininity in appearance and style. If I'm asked directly about my gender then I will be open about it – but this does not happen, life goes on.