Have you been laughed at or otherwise mocked?

[ChrissyRyan]

Have you been laughed at or otherwise mocked?

This has not happened nearly as much as in my earlier transitioning, but some disapproving or downright unkind looks and words do occasionally come about. 

Chrissy

[Oldandcreaky]

I hate, hate, HATE that anyone has been unkind to you, Chrissy. It's heartbreaking.

[CosmicJoke]

I think so but I also think you have to have thick skin to do this. It isn't easy and you just have to be prepared for that.

[ChrissyRyan]

I think so but I also think you have to have thick skin to do this. It isn't easy and you just have to be prepared for that.

Unfortunately, MTF HRT has only made my skin a bit thinner. Ha.

[NancyDrew1930]

Unfortunately, MTF HRT has only made my skin a bit thinner. Ha.

It's done that to me.  Of course, when I'm just wearing sunscreen, everyone thinks that Dracula invited me over for supper and he was doing more than kissing me on my neck!  My skin also gets a blue tint to it with just sunscreen!  LOL!

[big kim]

Yes a few times  early on in my transition in the  early  90s

[NancyDrew1930]

I just had a family member try to tell me to wear pants and shorts because women nowadays don't wear skirts and I could be disgracing the family.  And apparently some people think they have seen my underwear when I bend down (the skirts I wear to work fall just below the knee and when I look in the mirror bent over I don't see anything being exposed).  I don't wear pantyhose in the summer because it's too hot. 

[Charlotte Kitty ✅]

Many many times. Most in boymode though. I have been laughed at and taunted by a group of teens whilst they filmed the whole thing on their phone. And just the other day by a group of teens playing football. Add another 20+ occasions of minor mocking.

Worst ive been called multiple slurs, hit and spat on multiple times. This was on a bus full of people.


Charlotte 😻

[Stottie Girl]

I just had a family member try to tell me to wear pants and shorts because women nowadays don't wear skirts and I could be disgracing the family.  And apparently some people think they have seen my underwear when I bend down (the skirts I wear to work fall just below the knee and when I look in the mirror bent over I don't see anything being exposed).  I don't wear pantyhose in the summer because it's too hot. 

Since when do women no longer wear skirts? I didn't get that memo.

If your skirts are knee length then nobody has seen your underwear, they may have seen vpl but so what? It's all bare faced lies. I'm assuming you don't cartwheel down the street or do handstands while waiting for the bus of course!

You should tell whoever that was to mind their own sodding business, what a cheek!

[Stottie Girl]

Many many times. Most in boymode though. I have been laughed at and taunted by a group of teens whilst they filmed the whole thing on their phone. And just the other day by a group of teens playing football. Add another 20+ occasions of minor mocking.

Worst ive been called multiple slurs, hit and spat on multiple times. This was on a bus full of people.


Charlotte 😻

Spitting on someone is utterly vile and speaks more about who they are than any reflection on you Charlotte.

It is precisely these occasions that re-inforce in my mind that I need to be passable(ish) before I transition. I don't think I could cope with that level of abuse and humiliation, I'm not strong enough.

[NancyDrew1930]

Since when do women no longer wear skirts? I didn't get that memo.

If your skirts are knee length then nobody has seen your underwear, they may have seen vpl but so what? It's all bare faced lies. I'm assuming you don't cartwheel down the street or do handstands while waiting for the bus of course!

You should tell whoever that was to mind their own sodding business, what a cheek!

No I don't cartwheel or do handstands down the street.  And I work in retail right now, so I do try to look well made up.  I'm one of the few women in the store that wear skirts and dresses (and I am extra tall and a few times some of the other women will tell me that, because of my height a skirt is too short for working).  And when I've looked in the full length mirror to check that I don't flash, I basically have to be down at the very bottom of the mirror to maybe get a hint of my underwear.  Like I do see some upper leg because the skirt rides up a little bit when I bend down but nowhere near my underwear.  And even when I've adjusted the skirt to sit just below my bra, I don't get how people can see that far up, unless they were lying on the ground.

[Stottie Girl]

They can't see that far up Nancy, unless you're at the top of a ladder! For anyone to see up a knee length skirt you would have to be 10ft tall and bandy legged!

Those girls in the shop are either being catty or, more likely, winding you up for an in joke between them.

You wear a skirt if you want to wear a skirt Nancy, bugger them. They sound like the sort of people who would pick fault no matter what you wear.

[NancyDrew1930]

They can't see that far up Nancy, unless you're at the top of a ladder! For anyone to see up a knee length skirt you would have to be 10ft tall and bandy legged!

Those girls in the shop are either being catty or, more likely, winding you up for an in joke between them.

You wear a skirt if you want to wear a skirt Nancy, bugger them. They sound like the sort of people who would pick fault no matter what you wear.

No, a family friend was passing it along that they've heard people saying that they can see up my knee length skirts when I bend over.  However they also mentioned that they heard it was coming from someone who doesn't like our family and possibly some people he knows are related to my family (so really distant relatives).  So it's making those close to me seem to turn and try to convince me that I should "grow up" and dress male and forget about wearing women's stuff and transitioning.

[Stottie Girl]

Well whoever is saying this stuff, it is hurtful and very far from the truth. Either they do not like that you are transitioning or they are ignorant of what it means to be transgender. All you can do is have a frank discussion with your family and hope that they can see that this is nothing to be ashamed of, it is not a dirty family secret.

Gender dysphoria is not something you out of and disgard like it's the latest fad. In the vast majority of cases it gets stronger as you get older. Nobody chooses to be this way.

[Petunia]

I only really know of one occassion when two young women were staring at my jeggings and laughing. At least I assume that was the case.

I'm not trying to present as female but I am wearing as much female clothing as I can, blouses aside. It's really just female versions of what I used to wear as a guy.

I am currently on a cruise ship and I have noticed a lot of sideways looks, always from women. To be honest, I don't know any of these people so they have no influence over my life.

For the time being this is the first time in my life that I feel like I'm alive.

So to hell with anybody that can't handle an old guy with long hair, swinging hoop earrings and barely noticeable listick.

Stare all you want, then go and look in a mirror and tell me you love everything about yourself

[Stottie Girl]

I only really know of one occassion when two young women were staring at my jeggings and laughing. At least I assume that was the case.

I'm not trying to present as female but I am wearing as much female clothing as I can, blouses aside. It's really just female versions of what I used to wear as a guy.

I am currently on a cruise ship and I have noticed a lot of sideways looks, always from women. To be honest, I don't know any of these people so they have no influence over my life.

For the time being this is the first time in my life that I feel like I'm alive.

So to hell with anybody that can't handle an old guy with long hair, swinging hoop earrings and barely noticeable listick.

Stare all you want, then go and look in a mirror and tell me you love everything about yourself

You go Petnuia! I wish I could be more like you.

[Devlyn ✅]

People are people. Is there anyone here who hasn't laughed at someone or mocked them? Do we not make fun of politicians and public personas right here on these very boards? I know I do. It's wrong, yet I do it myself.

You know who we can all take lessons from right now? Hunter Biden. Dude is on fire, and he's apparently made of 102% Teflon*. You'd have to be an idiot to take a shot at him... but they're lining up to do it! 🤣





* With a 2% margin of error.

[ChrissyRyan]

It hurts to get laughed at. 

I hope it does not happen to you, or if it does, not often.

This mockery can leave scars.  It can lower our confidence.  It can increase our fear levels.
It can make us wonder what we even try.  We get discouraged.  But, we can also feel like we can do better next time and we brush this off as a learning experience as well as noting that some people are really unkind.

Then after when we pretty much can be out and about regularly, this laugh or snickering can happen again for some reason.  The hurt / discouragement cycle happens again.

Just keep trying.  We just want to be ourselves.  Most of us just want to blend in.


Hugs,


Chrissy