Looking at this thread, I can see you've received some thoughtful advice about honesty and trust. Here's a perspective that might complement what's already been shared:
Consider focusing on timing and approach rather than just whether to tell her. The existing advice rightly emphasizes honesty, but how and when you share this information can make a significant difference in how it's received.
Since you mentioned you should "talk more in the morning," this actually gives you a natural opportunity. You could frame it as wanting to be completely open because this relationship matters to you. Something like: "Before we move forward, there's something important about me I want you to know, because I care about you and want us to build something real."
The key insight the other responses touch on but don't fully develop is this: authentic relationships require authentic foundations. Every day you wait makes the conversation harder and potentially makes her feel more deceived if she finds out later. But more importantly, you deserve to be with someone who chooses you - all of you.
One practical suggestion: prepare for multiple possible reactions, not just acceptance or rejection. She might need time to process, have questions, or want to research and understand better. Having patience for her journey of understanding, just as you've had your own journey of self-discovery, can help both of you navigate this together.
Your instinct that it "wouldn't be right" to proceed without telling her is spot-on - trust your moral compass.
Hope everything works out well!
— Susan
