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CynthiaR

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September 24, 2025, 01:47:07 PM
Quote from: tgirlamg on September 23, 2025, 02:28:56 PMCindy!

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Oh my God, you would not believe the weight it has taken off of my shoulders. Almost feels as though I've finally been given permission to be who I really am.

Lori Dee

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September 24, 2025, 01:54:19 PM
Quote from: CynthiaR on September 24, 2025, 01:47:07 PMOh my God, you would not believe the weight it has taken off of my shoulders. Almost feels as though I've finally been given permission to be who I really am.

Yes!

We can only give ourselves permission because our experience comes from deep within ourselves. Sometimes, we forget that we have that power, and then someone says something that unlocks our knowledge of that power.

As my psychologist told me, "It should never be difficult to just be ourselves."

Go and be YOU, in whatever way that means. 😀
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September 24, 2025, 02:04:39 PM
Quote from: CynthiaR on September 24, 2025, 01:47:07 PMOh my God, you would not believe the weight it has taken off of my shoulders. Almost feels as though I've finally been given permission to be who I really am.

The World Is Yours Sister!

Enjoy!

A 💕
"To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment" ... Ralph Waldo Emerson 🌸

"The individual has always had to struggle from being overwhelmed by the tribe... But, no price is too high for the privilege of owning yourself" ... Rudyard Kipling 🌸

Let go of the things that no longer serve you... Let go of the pretense of the false persona, it is not you... Let go of the armor that you have worn for a lifetime, to serve the expectations of others and, to protect the woman inside... She needs protection no longer.... She is tired of hiding and more courageous than you know... Let her prove that to you....Let her step out of the dark and feel the light upon her face.... amg🌸

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CynthiaR

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Yesterday at 06:38:24 AM
Well, I finally did it. I came out to my wife. It was a rough couple of days. But, after giving her time to do her own research and answering every question I could, she's accepted who I am, and is being supportive. I cannot express in words what an absolute angel that woman is. I can only hope that her support continues as she begins to see the woman revealed.

Lori Dee

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Yesterday at 08:54:58 AM
That is a HUGE first step. Congrats!

As you have imagined, that could have gone any number of directions. The fact that she accepts you as you says so much about her love for you. That is a good sign that she will walk this path with you. Make sure she knows how much you appreciate that.

Have you found a therapist? If not, that may be the next step. It will be a big help to have a third party to help both of you as you navigate obstacles. It shows her that you are serious about this and are seeking answers from a professional. Maybe after a couple of sessions, you can invite your wife to the sessions for the same reason.

Thanks for the update!
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Yesterday at 09:52:47 AM
Quote from: CynthiaR on Yesterday at 06:38:24 AMWell, I finally did it. I came out to my wife. It was a rough couple of days. But, after giving her time to do her own research and answering every question I could, she's accepted who I am, and is being supportive. I cannot express in words what an absolute angel that woman is. I can only hope that her support continues as she begins to see the woman revealed.

Cindy!

Congrats on the good outcome sister and kudos on the courage you mustered to seek out what you needed! That same courage will serve you well in this new chapter of your life! Continue to Love and Appreciate your wife and the gift she has given you... The gift of the opportunity to find your long hidden self... Enjoy the ride... Amazing things await! 🌻

Onward Brave Sister!

Ashley 💕
"To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment" ... Ralph Waldo Emerson 🌸

"The individual has always had to struggle from being overwhelmed by the tribe... But, no price is too high for the privilege of owning yourself" ... Rudyard Kipling 🌸

Let go of the things that no longer serve you... Let go of the pretense of the false persona, it is not you... Let go of the armor that you have worn for a lifetime, to serve the expectations of others and, to protect the woman inside... She needs protection no longer.... She is tired of hiding and more courageous than you know... Let her prove that to you....Let her step out of the dark and feel the light upon her face.... amg🌸

Ashley's Corner: https://www.susans.org/index.php/topic,247549.0.html 🌻

Talula98

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Yesterday at 11:08:22 AM
Welcome!  Nice to see you on here!

CynthiaR

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Yesterday at 02:32:31 PM
@Lori Dee Yes, I have found a therapist. I've been working with her the past few weeks and will continue to work with her. Honestly, it was her just confirming that what I was experiencing was gender dysphoria, that gave me the courage to finally admit who I am, to the most important person in my life, my wife. I must admit, after some of our recent conversations, I've never felt closer to her. I certainly do want her involved and my intention is to have her attend upcoming sessions as my therapist and her see to be beneficial.

Pema

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Yesterday at 04:18:08 PM
Cynthia, this is wonderful news. Congratulations!
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Yesterday at 04:41:27 PM
Quote from: CynthiaR on Yesterday at 02:32:31 PM@Lori Dee Yes, I have found a therapist. I've been working with her the past few weeks and will continue to work with her. Honestly, it was her just confirming that what I was experiencing was gender dysphoria, that gave me the courage to finally admit who I am, to the most important person in my life, my wife. I must admit, after some of our recent conversations, I've never felt closer to her. I certainly do want her involved and my intention is to have her attend upcoming sessions as my therapist and her see to be beneficial.

That is so AWESOME!
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Yesterday at 06:48:42 PM
Quote from: CynthiaR on Yesterday at 06:38:24 AMWell, I finally did it. I came out to my wife. It was a rough couple of days. But, after giving her time to do her own research and answering every question I could, she's accepted who I am, and is being supportive. I cannot express in words what an absolute angel that woman is. I can only hope that her support continues as she begins to see the woman revealed.

Congratulations. I'm happy that it went well for you.
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