Hi Kikiâwelcome to Susan's Place! 🌸
I'm really glad you introduced yourself. It takes courage to say where you are with your body and feelings, and that kind of honesty makes this place safer for everyone. You absolutely belong here 🧡.
Our community spans many paths and orientations; being heterosexual doesn't make you any less part of us. What matters is that you're here, engaging in a supportive space where we look out for one another.
It sounds like you've been navigating meaningful changesâweight shifts, ADHD/OCD medicationâand you're learning to appreciate the breasts you have now. Many of us recognize that mix of surprise, curiosity, and complicated emotions when a body changes. Choosing to meet those changes with kindness is real progress. That quiet self-acceptance steadies you and gently teaches others how to meet you, too 🌱.
I also want you to know you're not alone with ADHDâI have it as well 🧠. ADHD isn't something you "work past" by ignoring; that usually backfires. What helps is using the supports your brain actually responds to. For me, a little background sound and a couple of harmless "distractions" make deep focus easierâa podcast murmuring, ambient music while I write. Your tools may be different, and that's perfectly fine. The goal is sustainable focus and self-kindness, not perfection â¨.
Wanting a soulmate who cherishes you as you are is healthy and wise. The right person won't ask you to trim away parts of yourself, but love you for who you actually are. They will delight in the whole youâyour humor, your values, your everyday tendernessâand yes, the body you're learning to celebrate 💞.
I love that you're finding joy in expression. Beautiful, comfortable lingerie can be both practical and affirming, and Lane Bryant's Cacique line includes some lovely pieces. Enjoying flowery designs or softer fabrics isn't superficial; it's a small, everyday way to feel at home in yourself 🌷. Those little comforts make conversations lighter, connections easier, and quiet moments more peaceful.
Feel free to dive right inâthere are fresh posts every day and a deep archive stretching back years, so you're in good company 💬📚. Share when it feels right, ask questions, revive an older thread if it speaks to you, and don't feel self-conscious about "saying it perfectly."
We're an all-ages, public forum, so we keep things friendly and thoughtful, yet there's plenty of room for real talk about life, identity, relationships, and self-care. Your voice adds to a long, living conversation that's helped countless people find words for what they're feeling.
We're happy you're here, Kiki 😊. Take your time settling in, and reach out anytime if you'd like pointers to corners of the forum that fit your interests. I'm looking forward to seeing you around the site.
Warmly,
âSusan
