Krista’s Celebrations and Doubts

[KristaFairchild]

Thank you Lori and Sarah,

It's great there are women here who also discovered their truth later in life as well as those who did not. I joined to gain perspective and each of you has been terrific at offering that. I am starting to look forward to my next steps instead of fearing them and this site, and your comments, really help. 

My wife asked to have a conversation about intimacy tomorrow and my gender journey will be part of that. I'm grateful for the opportunity and the support of other women like me that has prepared me. I'm hopeful. 

[KristaFairchild]

Oops, sorry Dances! I meant you 😘

[Dances With Trees]

Oops, sorry Dances! I meant you

Not to worry, Krista!

I so enjoy reading your posts and the thoughtful discussions they engender!

[Northern Star Girl ✅]

      @KristaFairchild
Dear Krista:
              I am so very late to your Birthday Party.

I am hoping that you had a very enjoyable time on your May 14th Birthday.
  Cake with candles?  Ice cream?  A special dinner?  Time with friends?  A trip to your favorite place?
                      HAPPY BIRTHDAY
              💐    🎁              🎂  🥳

HUGS, and I am giving you my warm Welcome to the Susan's Place Forum. 
                I'm so very GLAD that you found us and that you have been joining in.
Danielle [Northern star Girl]
  The Forum Administrator    Direct Email: alaskandanielle@yahoo.com

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[Alana Ashleigh]

Good luck at your appointment, Krista. happy birthday, too. Seeing your painted toenails poking through a bubble bath is something that you'll never tire of. I've been painting my toenails since 2023, and looking down, and seeing them puts a smile on my face every time.

[davina61]

Belated happy birthday my dear XX

[Northern Star Girl ✅]

            @KristaFairchild
Dear Krista:
I am so very pleased to see that you had joined our Susan's Place Forum family when you recently
registered as a member a month ago on April 18, 2026 and then you took it upon yourself to
start you very own member Blog thread that you can call your HOME here on the Forum where
you can share your life endeavors and your transition journey with your readers and followers.
Your Blog HOME will also allow other members to easily find you and leave their comments and replies.

As you continue to be actively involved you will undoubtedly find like-minded members that
may become your friends that you frequent exchange messages with.

Consider your member Blog thread to be your online Forum journal or diary.  In addition to my various
Blog threads over the years I also keep an "old school' more private pen and paper journal at my home. 
Nothing fancy, just spiral notebooks filled with my daily and more personal writings including colorful doodling,
cards and letters from my friends, snapshot photos, etc.
On rainy, cold and snowy nights, of which their are many here where I live, I can be found on my comfy
chair near my fireplace, reading my past and present entries with tears in my eyes or with laughter.

I have found that by writing out my feelings and thoughts it is good personal therapy that allows me to
review my decisions and to improve my future actions.
When you share your successes and good news we will all give you our congratulations and hugs and
when you tell us about your not-so-good news and failures we will gather around you with our ears to
listen and our shoulders for your to lean on.... HUGS will be included from many of your readers.

Again, I am so very glad that you decided to be a part of our Forum family.
If you have questions about the Forum and how it works you can feel free to contact me or any member
of the Forum Staff.

HUGS and a Warm Welcome,
Danielle [Northern Star Girl]
  The Forum Administrator    Direct Email: alaskandanielle@yahoo.com

[KristaFairchild]

Sometimes when I start to doubt, I look over the last few years of steady growth. 

My gender timeline (very condensed):
2020

• First lipstick (applied by my wife)
• First private feminine exploration

2022

• Ear piercing
• First visible nail polish
• Daily lip products

2023

• Women's clothing became part of my work wardrobe
• Came out as gender questioning to trusted colleagues

2024

• Daily makeup, jewelry, perfume, smooth legs
• Joined gender support communities
• Shifted from fear to a new normal

Late 2025

• Lipstick became daily
• Changed pronouns to they/them
• Introduced Krista in queer spaces

2026

• First public skirt
• she/they at work
• Purse became daily
• Skirts, pumps, dresses, and visible femininity integrated into everyday life
• Shifted from "Can I get away with this?" to "Do I feel like myself?"

Current status:
 Less fear. More desire, joy, and alignment. 💕

[tgirlamg]

Well Done Krista!

This is how life is claimed one day at a time! 💕🤗💕


Onward Brave Sister!

Ashley 💕

[Northern Star Girl ✅]

    @KristaFairchild
Dear Krista:
I am recently aware that your birthday was on May 14th, however your birthday is not listed on
my Birthday calendar, so I am hoping that you will look at the following post and
enter you birthday so that I can annually recognize your special day.

For privacy, if you choose, you absolutely do not need to include your chosen birthday
information and/or to include the year of your birth date.
In fact you do not need to reveal your exact day and month either, you can feel free
to use a month, day, and year of your choosing or some other special event in your life...
... or, if you wish, you can enter nothing at all.

                      Information about Birthday Recognition for our Members
LINK--> https://www.susans.org/index.php?topic=247093.msg2261396#msg2261396

If you want assistance or have any questions please Forum Message me or contact me
via my direct email:  alaskandanielle@yahoo.com

HUGS, Danielle [Northern Star Girl]

[KristaFairchild]

Food and War

I'm going to express a couple thoughts that may not be popular. I'm not going to engage in debate if you disagree and I have jumped into other threads to offer dissenting opinions. 

This needs to be a safe place for us above all else. 

Regarding food, I was raised in the Midwestern US on what my mom called "meat, potato, and a vegetable " for every dinner. I thought about somone things and leaned toward vegetarian in my twenties. I went plant-based in 2000 and remain so. 

I'm asked why I don't eat animal products. I answer, "Why DO you eat them?" Later I'll share my answer that I want to reduce my carbon and pollution footprint (diet is in the top three ways), I feel healthier (look up the protein myth; I get plenty), and I don't like sentient beings suffering for my pleasure (because yeah, animal products taste good)


As for war, I'm intensely pacifistic. I have immense respect for people who dodged the draft and refused to fight. In many wars, people on all sides died pointlessly. There are exceptions. In all cases, even people on the wrong side of history did not deserve to die. And my country has become a worldwide bully. 

I've said what I needed to say. I'll read all responses but won't engage in arguments. It's ok if you agree or if you are angry. I celebrate all our lives as we share our stories, chat about easy topics, share our experiences and hope about our gender journeys, and have a safe place to be ourselves. 

[Northern Star Girl ✅]

@KristaFairchild
Dear Krista:
I wholeheartedly agree with your statement:
              "This needs to be a safe place for us above all else"

I sincerely hope that you find it that way here on our Forum.
My Moderator Team and I work very hard to keep this a SAFE and ACCEPTING place for ALL our our members.
Please, if you ever do not find that to be true, I request that you contact me via
Forum Private Message; or my Direct Email at alaskandanielle@yahoo.com     

I am so very glad that you blessed us with your presence and your posted comments and thoughts.
HUGS and my best wishes for your success and happiness.

Danielle[Northern Star Girl
  Forum Administrator
                                        Contacting Forum Staff
                  https://www.susans.org/index.php?topic=251245.msg2306399#msg2306399 
cc: @Susan @Northern Star Girl @Devlyn  @Lori Dee  @Jessica_Rose  @Sarah B  @Mariah  @Charlotte Kitty           

[Stottie Girl]

Food and War

I'm going to express a couple thoughts that may not be popular. I'm not going to engage in debate if you disagree and I have jumped into other threads to offer dissenting opinions.

This needs to be a safe place for us above all else.

Regarding food, I was raised in the Midwestern US on what my mom called "meat, potato, and a vegetable " for every dinner. I thought about somone things and leaned toward vegetarian in my twenties. I went plant-based in 2000 and remain so.

I'm asked why I don't eat animal products. I answer, "Why DO you eat them?" Later I'll share my answer that I want to reduce my carbon and pollution footprint (diet is in the top three ways), I feel healthier (look up the protein myth; I get plenty), and I don't like sentient beings suffering for my pleasure (because yeah, animal products taste good)


As for war, I'm intensely pacifistic. I have immense respect for people who dodged the draft and refused to fight. In many wars, people on all sides died pointlessly. There are exceptions. In all cases, even people on the wrong side of history did not deserve to die. And my country has become a worldwide bully.

I've said what I needed to say. I'll read all responses but won't engage in arguments. It's ok if you agree or if you are angry. I celebrate all our lives as we share our stories, chat about easy topics, share our experiences and hope about our gender journeys, and have a safe place to be ourselves.

You can have any diet you like Krista, you won't get any argument from me. As long as people don't preach at me telling me my lifestyle is bad and theirs is "The Way" then all power to you.

Vegetarian food can be absolutely awesome, I often have a veggie meal but by plant based I'm assuming you mean Vegan? I could not give up cheese and dairy so it's not for me!

Humans are omnivores, we can eat both meat and veg or just veg. I do enjoy meat but if I was faced with having to dispatch the animal myself I would switch to a vegetarian diet!!! I don't even kill spiders and flies ha ha! There was a live tv show in the UK once where it showed you the whole process from bringing the animal into the (studio set up)  abattoir, stunning it, killing it, butchering it, cooking it and then serving to the live audience. They did a sheep and a pig I think. It very nearly turned me veggie and it will likely stay with me for life. The process is horrific, so industrial. And yes, I am aware it is totally double standards on my part. I could never be a hunter.

I consider myself very anti war. But I will defend my country if we are ever attacked. I only believe in defensive actions when my own county or an ally is attacked. A lot of the conflicts the US and UK have been involved in post war were either idealogical or all about money and oil grabs. Not in my name, though I will support our service men and women who have no choice in where they are sent.

[KristaFairchild]

Public scares me yet is exhilarating. 

My days are no longer drab. At work and home I'm feminine. I have no male clothing and I always wear makeup.  

But there is always a limit on my expression. Four years ago my limit was panties under male clothes. Now it's my lovely wig, breast forms, and bold lipstick. The last limit is fading. 

I have gone out fully as myself in certain limited ways. 

Walking in public from my car to a Genderquest meeting, 150 of the longest feet ever measured. 

Trips out of town to safer cities than my famously Trump-loving hometown.  

At home, when my family isn't around, though the appeal of that is gone now. 

Every day I feel incomplete without those three things. I feel like they are "too much". I think they would be an improvement. When I do it, when I'm the Krista in my profile photo and I shed the fear, I feel fabulous! 

I've broken dozens of self-imposed walls and I will do the same with these last three. All of you help me advance ❤️

[Valerie.Val]

Way to go Krista, I'm so proud of you!

[Lori Dee ✅]

Just keep remembering how far you have come, and that will motivate you to keep going.

Even baby steps forward are still moving forward. They are still progress, and before long you will have gone a mile.

Keep stepping, girl!