Welcome to
Our Journeys.
This board exists for a specific kind of thread, and the purpose of this post is to help you figure out whether your thread belongs here, or whether one of the other boards on the site is a better fit.
Both answers are good answers. The site has rooms for every kind of writing — Our Journeys is just one of them, and it works best when the threads inside it are doing the thing the board was built to hold.
What Our Journeys is forOur Journeys is for long-arc threads doing the active work of transition. First-person narratives that document and navigate transition and the issues that arise from it, written over time, with community reading and responding alongside.
The active work of transition can mean a lot of things:
- A newly-out trans person figuring out who they are and what comes next.
- A partner working through what their spouse's transition means for the marriage, for themselves, for the life they thought they were going to have.
- A family member finding their footing after a sibling, child, or parent comes out.
- A trans person mid-transition writing through the medical, social, legal, and emotional pieces as they come.
- Someone earlier or later in the arc than they expected to be, navigating what that means.
These threads have something in common. They're not journals of daily life. They're ongoing accounts of
figuring it out — written in real time, with the community reading along, replying, witnessing, and sometimes carrying part of the weight.
What Our Journeys isn't forOur Journeys isn't a general blog board. That's what
Member Blogs is for, and Member Blogs are wonderful — they hold years of writing by members who use their threads to share their lives, their hobbies, their families, their travels, their everyday. Many of those writers transitioned long ago and the thread is about the life they've built since. That's a different kind of writing, and it has its own room.
If your thread is primarily about life — work, family, weather, what you cooked this week, what your dogs did, what's on TV — that's a blog, and it belongs in Member Blogs. The transition is part of who you are, but the thread isn't
about transition.
If your thread is mostly about a single moment or a single question — I have an appointment tomorrow and I'm scared, what should I wear, how do I tell my mom — that's a support post. It belongs in Transgender talk, Transitioning, Significant Others talk, or another topic-specific board where people looking for that kind of conversation will find it.
If your thread is about the ongoing work of transition itself — the figuring-out, sustained over time, with community alongside — that's Our Journeys.
How to tell which one you haveAsk yourself:
what is my thread about, when I zoom out?If the answer is:
- my life, with transition somewhere in the background — that's Member Blogs.
- one specific thing I need help with right now — that's a support board.
- navigating transition, in writing, over time, with the community reading along — that's Our Journeys.
A thread can also change shape over time. A thread that started as active work and grew into a record of the life that came after can be moved to Member Blogs. A thread that started as a blog and turned into something doing the work can come to Our Journeys.
If you think your thread has changed, you can request staff assistance to move it.
For more about blogging on the site in general — what blogs are, how to request one, how the format works — see
Blogging.
Moving an existing thread hereIf you have a thread that fits Our Journeys and you'd like it moved, private message a staff member, and we'll handle it. Your thread keeps its history, its replies, and its URL. Nothing is ever lost.
A note for readersThreads in Our Journeys are doing active work. When you reply, you're part of the work. That doesn't mean you have to have answers or experience or the perfect words — most of the time you don't, and that's fine. What it means is that people writing here are often in vulnerable stretches, and the way you show up matters. Read with care. Reply with care. Witness when that's what's needed. The threads here are stronger because the surrounding community is stronger.
Welcome to Our Journeys. Whichever side of a thread you're on — writing one, reading one, or thinking about starting one — there's room for you here.
With much love and support,
— Susan💜
