Blindsided

[Blindsidedbad66]

Hello I have been blindsided in these later years of my life by the fact that my husband of nearly 30 years is transgender 
I am going through a wide range of emotions I have cried and screamed and begged
I am afraid ,  I am lost , and just about at my wits end
I would love to hear from sime other significant others who maybe dealing with these things as well .
I love my husband and would really appreciate and help i could get to try to navigate this upheaval in what I thought was my life  as well as helping others if I could .
I thank you in advance for any help and advice that may help me

[Lori Dee ✅]

Hello Blindsided,

I'm Lori Dee. Welcome to Susan's Place!

I see this is your first post. Thank you for posting these questions. You are not alone.

We have a forum for Significant Others who are walking the same path you are.
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I would also recommend that you read through Amy's (Pugs4Life)'s blog here:
https://www.susans.org/index.php?topic=252385.0

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[Pugs4life]

@Blindsidedbad66

Dear Blindsided,

I want to start by saying how glad I am that you are here. It took real courage to make that first post and I am so glad that you did. 

My name is Amy and I am a significant other.  I can certainly relate to how you are feeling right now.  When I arrived here back in September of 2025, I felt much of the same things you are feeling now.  I felt like the rug had been pulled out from under me.  Although I am many months into this journey, I am still figuring things out as I go.  I would love to be of any help to you that I can be.  You are not alone in this.  There are several others on here that have been where you are now.  I have found this to be such a loving, supportive community.  I have received such words of wisdom to help me on this journey.  I know you will too. 

I really look forward to connecting with you more on here and getting to know you better.  Please come back often.  I am here for whatever you need and to help you in any way that I can. 

With love,
Amy

[Blindsidedbad66]

Thank you for reaching out with a very warm welcome 
I appreciate the kind words and I am glad I am not alone.
 I amI sure you know how isolating this feels .
I hope i will help and listen to others as well . 
I am still trying to figure out this forum so please forgive my extremely poor computer skills . I am lucky I can answer my cell phone 
I look forward to listening,  learning , and moving forward on this twist of life thank you again for your help and understanding.

[Lori Dee ✅]

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