Blindsided

[Blindsidedbad66]

Hello I have been blindsided in these later years of my life by the fact that my husband of nearly 30 years is transgender 
I am going through a wide range of emotions I have cried and screamed and begged
I am afraid ,  I am lost , and just about at my wits end
I would love to hear from sime other significant others who maybe dealing with these things as well .
I love my husband and would really appreciate and help i could get to try to navigate this upheaval in what I thought was my life  as well as helping others if I could .
I thank you in advance for any help and advice that may help me

[Lori Dee ✅]

Hello Blindsided,

I'm Lori Dee. Welcome to Susan's Place!

I see this is your first post. Thank you for posting these questions. You are not alone.

We have a forum for Significant Others who are walking the same path you are.
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I would also recommend that you read through Amy's (Pugs4Life)'s blog here:
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[Pugs4life]

@Blindsidedbad66

Dear Blindsided,

I want to start by saying how glad I am that you are here. It took real courage to make that first post and I am so glad that you did. 

My name is Amy and I am a significant other.  I can certainly relate to how you are feeling right now.  When I arrived here back in September of 2025, I felt much of the same things you are feeling now.  I felt like the rug had been pulled out from under me.  Although I am many months into this journey, I am still figuring things out as I go.  I would love to be of any help to you that I can be.  You are not alone in this.  There are several others on here that have been where you are now.  I have found this to be such a loving, supportive community.  I have received such words of wisdom to help me on this journey.  I know you will too. 

I really look forward to connecting with you more on here and getting to know you better.  Please come back often.  I am here for whatever you need and to help you in any way that I can. 

With love,
Amy

[Blindsidedbad66]

Thank you for reaching out with a very warm welcome 
I appreciate the kind words and I am glad I am not alone.
 I amI sure you know how isolating this feels .
I hope i will help and listen to others as well . 
I am still trying to figure out this forum so please forgive my extremely poor computer skills . I am lucky I can answer my cell phone 
I look forward to listening,  learning , and moving forward on this twist of life thank you again for your help and understanding.

[Lori Dee ✅]

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[KristaFairchild]

Hello I have been blindsided in these later years of my life by the fact that my husband of nearly 30 years is transgender 
I am going through a wide range of emotions I have cried and screamed and begged
I am afraid ,  I am lost , and just about at my wits end
I would love to hear from sime other significant others who maybe dealing with these things as well .
I love my husband and would really appreciate and help i could get to try to navigate this upheaval in what I thought was my life  as well as helping others if I could .
I thank you in advance for any help and advice that may help me

Definitely spend some time reading the pugslife threads. That's the exact discussion. Amy, that's in your blog, right? From Home, scroll waaay down to Member Blogs. 

[Petunia]

Welcome Blindsided,

I can only repeat what others have said.

Amy (pugs4life) is a must read.

I'm doing to my wife the same as what you and Amy were going through.

[Pugs4life]

Dear Blindsided,

I want you to know that you are no longer alone in this.  I am right here for anything you need and so is everyone else on this wonderful forum. 

This journey can feel isolating for sure. I can completely understand that. I felt so alone at first-like I was the only one going through this.  Especially in the area that I live in.  There seems to be more support for the transgender person than there is for a significant other.  I have since found many wonderful connections here on Susan's Place.  My hope is that you will find that too and people to travel along with you on this journey. 

It can be shocking at first to hear the news that your husband is transgender.  I am still trying to find my footing but I can say that it definitely helps to take it one day at at time instead of looking at all of the steps at once.  I know that is easier said than done.  I am still needing to pull myself back into the present and not live in the future unknowns.  This is not an easy journey at all.  It can be done, though, with alot of hard work.   

You help just by being here Blindsided.  I was so eager to connect with other significant others who may be going through the same thing I am.  I think we will be a big help to each other.  I really am glad that you are here. 

It can be overwhelming to figure out a new forum like this.  I think you are doing a great job though!  You were able to make your first post and have replied to posts.  Everyone is here to help too. 

I really look forward to getting to know you better and interact with you more on here.  It takes so much courage to do what you are doing Blindsided. 

Just let me know what I can do to help.  I am here for you. 

With love,
Amy

[Pugs4life]

Hi Krista,

Yes, I do believe that discussion is in my thread.