Transwomen: what item(s) do you wish you had starting out?

[bellesparkles]

My wife (43) is a very recent transwoman. I want to give her a little "congrats on being a girl!" giftbox with some cute, funny, and useful stuff to start her journey into woman-hood.

There are of course things she's already mentioned to have an interest in, like skin care, make up, and hair removal. I will include some of that in the giftbox.

But I also wonder... transwomen of the internet: what item(s) would you have liked to have starting out? Or maybe would still like to have if you were given such a giftbox?

Do you have any other relevant ideas to include?

Thank you in advance!

Edit: changed the title to include the word "item(s)" because I think my question was a bit too general before oops

[Finally Anna]

A blouse? A makeup class? Nail salon? Understanding? Caring?
The absolute best is a spouse that accepts and possibly even welcomes the change, and that makes the newly out transwoman feel understood and appreciated. So, the exact content of the "congrats" is perhpas not what matter most, as long as the message is clear.

[Laura Squirrel]

Truthfully, I wish I could've come out when I was 19 like I wanted. I would suggest a medium-sized black purse.

[bellesparkles]

The absolute best is a spouse that accepts and possibly even welcomes the change, and that makes the newly out transwoman feel understood and appreciated.

Thankfully she often remarks that she would never have even considered transitioning if it wasn't for my motivational support, so I do hope I'm already supplying that for her. Of course I don't know if I can ever truly make her feel understood because I'm cis myself, but I do tell her I appreciate her a lot and hope this giftbox will make that appreciation a bit more tangible

[Laura Squirrel]

Thankfully she often remarks that she would never have even considered transitioning if it wasn't for my motivational support, so I do hope I'm already supplying that for her. Of course I don't know if I can ever truly make her feel understood because I'm cis myself, but I do tell her I appreciate her a lot and hope this giftbox will make that appreciation a bit more tangible

Oh, I'm sure that she will love it. You may get some waterworks going, though. So, have a box of Kleenex nearby.

[tammy753]

A supporting family. My story is posted here several times but that is the one thing I wish I had. Well I also wish I had been braver and came out in the 90's.

[Laura Squirrel]

A supporting family. My story is posted here several times but that is the one thing I wish I had. Well I also wish I had been braver and came out in the 90's.

You and me both.

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[KristaFairchild]

A blouse? A makeup class? Nail salon? Understanding? Caring?
The absolute best is a spouse that accepts and possibly even welcomes the change, and that makes the newly out transwoman feel understood and appreciated. So, the exact content of the "congrats" is perhpas not what matter most, as long as the message is clear.

Yes! What she said! 😃

[ChrissyRyan]

Welcome Belle!


Chrissy

[NicoleBamdad]

hi i am nicole i am 1 month post op the thing i wish i started life with was being a girl as a guy i always did dtuff girls do i identify as a girl early in life but did nothing about it until recently i went through my transtion then 1 month ago had my sexual reassigment surgery as a kid i felt more like a girl than a guy so now as a girl i feel complete

[Courtney G]

For me, the most affirming things are the simple, personal items that cis women take for granted and/or that I might have dreamed about but felt guilty over, such as underwear (bras and panties).

Also:
A female razor, for legs, underarms, etc.
Foundation or blurring primer - makeup basics
Sleepwear!
Camis/tank tops
Cute socks
Deodorant or perfume
Maybe a magazine intended for women

Colorful things, like a lavender or yellow water bottle. Men aren't supposed to have colorful things, even if they like them. Women (such as your spouse) are allowed to.

Basically, anything that's considered female-coded and off-limits to men.

[CosmicJoke]

My wife (43) is a very recent transwoman. I want to give her a little "congrats on being a girl!" giftbox with some cute, funny, and useful stuff to start her journey into woman-hood.

There are of course things she's already mentioned to have an interest in, like skin care, make up, and hair removal. I will include some of that in the giftbox.

But I also wonder... transwomen of the internet: what item(s) would you have liked to have starting out? Or maybe would still like to have if you were given such a giftbox?

Do you have any other relevant ideas to include?

Thank you in advance!

Edit: changed the title to include the word "item(s)" because I think my question was a bit too general before oops

Any kind of perfume or fragrance is nice. Shower gels and body wash are good too. Dove and Olay make some really good ones.

[Petunia]

Thankfully she often remarks that she would never have even considered transitioning if it wasn't for my motivational support, so I do hope I'm already supplying that for her. Of course I don't know if I can ever truly make her feel understood because I'm cis myself, but I do tell her I appreciate her a lot and hope this giftbox will make that appreciation a bit more tangible

The above would have been enough for me.

But a nice piece of jewelry, a trip to the nail salon and doing makeup together would have been much appreciated

[Charlotte Kitty ✅]

Nice body washes and moisturisers. The good ones!

[Finally Anna]

Of course I don't know if I can ever truly make her feel understood because I'm cis myself, but I do tell her I appreciate her a lot and hope this giftbox will make that appreciation a bit more tangible

I think you provide world-class understanding!
Encouraging transition and providing comfort, care and tokens like the gift box, is probably the most supportive and loving thing a newly out transwoman can get.
Just continue like you do. I can assure you that it is very appreciated.
💕

[NancyDrew1930]

It's very nice that she has a supportive spouse.

I would recommend some black pantyhose or a nude hose to go with her skirts.

Also, maybe suggest that she get her ears pierced so that she can wear some cute earrings and necklace combos.

[Anne_lifetrip]

Thankfully she often remarks that she would never have even considered transitioning if it wasn't for my motivational support, so I do hope I'm already supplying that for her.

I agree that your greatest gift for her is this. Knowing she has you there is of great value.

Adding to that, maybe, a dinner out or a girls out with her.
I mean, the whole package...hair, makeup, dress up and go out someplace both of you like and that can do together, where she can enjoy life as herself with you on her side. Check that it is a friendly place and go for it.
Those first memories being happy being herself are forever.

And congratulations for being such a wonderful woman.

[bellesparkles]

These are some amazing ideas, thank you girls!

I also really like the additional idea of taking her out for a girl's night and going for the works by getting our hair and nails done etc. I will definitely put some work into finding out safe places to do this <3

[Liz K]

I know I'll be a bundle of nerves after my surgery.  After the initial recovery, I'd want a spa day where I can be pampered and relax for hours.  Massage, facial, sauna, beauty treatments, decadent food and beverages, etc.  It's a bit spendy but so worth it!