Playing online games (eq) is how I first came in contact with my GF. Your situation sounds somewhat similar in a few instances to mine ( more than most that i read).
I also moved down here to mississippi from seattle, so that less accepting society seems pretty apparent in what i have seen (though I have come in contanct with some sort of underground people). I work in a book store, and many TGs come in (seems to be a safe place to dress and visit). So I see and talk to many (at least 1 or 2 a week).
You coming home tired after exhausted work hours could be beneficial if she likes to sooth and help set a relaxing mood. If you want a little feminine soothing, I would mention it to Jaycie. My girlfriend mentioned to me she likes how I clean the house, put soothing music on, cook food for her, and dim the lights. She feels really appreciated when I do that and helps create a relaxing mood and I feel good doing it. This is one area where my feminine tendencies that I express benefit her, in her opinion. And I try to give her time to absorb the dayl, and not jump into emotional conversations or anything.
Yes the family is in the future to think about, but is easier once you grasp the benefits, acceptance, what you like, what you dont like, and have explored your relationship and boundaries. I have seen a few posts with ways to come out to family and friends.
In the end there is mainly you two as a fundamental couple. You have first yourself and your own needs to consider. Then yours as a couple as your primary relationship. I would work in that order of importance. Explore each other. Then third can work on family and friends with such knowledge and strength.
Important thing is that you have rights also, and should converse about these things.
I am shy about many things talking to her still. Sometimes she has a way of finding things and desires I never mentioned to her, then asking if I wanted that. Most the time doing it kindly, others more pushing (she is pretty direct at times lol). She asked early questions like: Do you want breasts? What size do you want? Looked at pictures and different sizes. Asked what name I went by? Was I attracted to men (certainly not)? What styles of clothing I preferred. Even went shopping and would ask if I wanted this or that (can create a code if in stealth of saying, would this look good on <feminine name>).
But we always after all this try to get back to non TG things and topics. After all, TS is not the only thing that defines me, and SO of a TS isnt her only definition. We still play online games, watch movies, talk politics, work, religion, and look at antics and fashion dolls (her passion) together.
There is just now more emotions that are real, and feeling of truer identity and role in the relationship.
