I know that the areas of philosophy, science, history, mathematics and the like have long had a masculine bias. Women in those areas have had to work harder than usual in order to have a impact due to how society views such things.
I wouldn't be surprised if the psychologist isn't aware of the biases. If you are looking inward at how the mind works, you may not be aware of how society at large impacts what goes into the mind at the conscious and subconscious level. (Hopefully psychologists ARE aware of sociology...)
You could always look at a person as being an entity of many parts, each of which has a spectrum of options. In some instances you position on a given spectrum happens to be in synch with what society 'demands'. In other instances you may off the norm for society.
Being intellectual often puts you off the norm in general. The 'average' person, male or female, doesn't really seem to be interested in philosophy, science, history, etc., so that is one strike against you. When you add in the stereotype of an intelligent female scaring away less intelligent males, you have another strike against you. (Act dumb so guys will like you...)
You might want to study sociology and how society works. A man who I consider to be my mentor once said "If you understand the rules you can break the rules." It may be tough, but knowing how a system works gives you a better chance of tweaking that system to work in ways that you want.
"Gender variant" is a societal judgment based on years of ever evolving changes. While parts of it may have some basis in biology, most of it can be traced back through history.
