Hello dere,
You've been lurking around so I spose you're getting a flavour of the discourse round here (strawberry).
Since I've been thinking about androgyne stuff, and more accepting of myself I have made one rule with regard to presentation - 'If I fancy the idea and I can afford it, why not?'. Which means that where I would have previously scorned my predilection for floral patterns or love of the colour purple etc... I now give that sort of thing a go.
That seems to be the way forward, not to look for girly stuff or seek an androgynous look but to ignore the invisible line and to wander around a whole shop picking out what I fancy.
Of course some stuff gets put back, I may like lots of female fashions, but a lot of it does not suit my figure or makes me feel self concious, I want to express myself as I dress, and although I reckon I am fun and colourful, I'm not a particularly loud person. I don't like being noticed or watched.
This does mean that most of the skirts, dresses and a good portion of tops were a 'try it once' affair. I adore dresses, I think they are lovely, but I feel very silly in them, so I'll just have to ogle the fashion mags like everyone else. And pink is just not the right colour for my skin, so that's not used often.
I've not tried female trousers or jeans, I've thought about it, but I imagine the fit to not be comfortable - though many of my jeans don't fit my hips anyway, so maybe I should give it a go.
It also means that my cack handed attempts at eye makeup will probably not be tolerated.
On the plus side, I will use blusher and lip gloss when I go clubbing, or want to impress...and I love painting flowers on my fingernails.
It also means I have bought girl's trainers...lots of pyjamas (I love pyjamas, spend much of the day in them writing) some knee socks, a few tee-shirts, a rucksack....
What I really love is girlying a mannish object up, pink shoelaces in my steel-toed black doc martins, (indeed buying girly shoe laces and spicing up dull shoes is quite satisfying) it's also nice to have little lapel badges and things. I have a (slightly eccentric) jacket I adore that I may iron appliqué flowers onto - I've developed a love for the floral in the last few months.
Course the other fun thing is accessories. I've always carried around a battered winnie the pooh pencilcase and a pink notebook with fairies on it, I always need a pen and notebook and they were both presents. But I am enjoying putting more feminine stuff in my room (within the restraints imposed by my landlady). This means I pick up nicely designed wrapping paper, cut it up and stick in on my wardrobes, i've put a large green flowered piece of material on my ceiling to break up the straight lines, and I love browsing stationary shops for cute postcards to stick around. Today I got some nice ones of cakes. I get a little lift, because I can't change the walls or the furniture, I can atleast change the pictures around. I would buy feminine bedding, love the swirls and curls of that stuff - but i can't afford it.
The other joy is beauty products, the sheer range of nice smelling products and flavours and textures...how soft and nice smelling freshly washed skin can possibly get.
To be honest, a lot of this stuff doesn't make you seem androgynous..and what is it really but giving yerself the licence to do and wear those things that you would have regarded as 'silly' before. But sometimes people notice, my friend becky informed me that i made the best person to go shopping with because it's all new and exciting to me, someone else noticed I was getting 'funkier'.
There are androgynes who really wish to be androgynous, some that wish to be so naked also...My experience is that I have become more open to items that are downright girly, and my confidence is wearing and buying such things stems from seeing myself as androgyne, but it really isn't a requirement. Can be fun though...
