If You HAD to Choose Just One, which would it be???

[MeghanAndrews]

I typically hate polls where I can't answer any of the answers because they don't fit. I made a blog post about this subject. I've always felt more female than feminine, inside and out. My whole life. It sometimes bothers me because I WANT to feel more feminine than I do. I want to feel sexy, I want to feel cutesy and girly sometimes. I am not afraid of that. I just don't. I look in the mirror and I look like a normal girl next door. That should be a good thing BUT I do want to feel attractive and sexy sometimes, I just can't force it. I'm ok with it now, it's just this thing that hits me sometimes, you know? Like when I go out with really cute friends and they get attention, it's like "hey, I want that too!" but I really don't get approached by guys or anything because I don't think they see me that way. I don't know what they see me as, lol. Anyway, I'm blabbing.

Female or feminine? Which do you lean or have leaned more toward? Don't say both, even if you feel it, try to force yourself to pick one or the other 🙂 Meghan

[DRAIN]

i definitely felt neither. i remember saying to my mom "hooray for mental androgyny!" when i was probably 14 or 15. i guess if i really try to put it in an either box, it would me masculine though.

[MeghanAndrews]

Ugh, I don't like how this poll would force FTM's or masculine/male identified people to choose female...I think you all get the point...was it female/male or feminine/masculine?

[Osiris]

I'd have to say growing up I felt more masculine. Not that I identified as female, but having a female body I thought that I couldn't be male.

Now coming to terms with who I am I feel more male than masculine.

[tinkerbell]

Read my signature!


tink

[Genevieve Swann]

Female would be okay except the menstral cycles. I would like to have breasts. There are very few masculine things I get into. Don't like football, wrestlin, etc. I like to see pro bull riders when the bull wins. NASCAR is good for the crashes. NASCAR drivers have good safety gear so they rarely get hurt. A bull rider deserves to get hurt.

[MeghanAndrews]

Read my signature!
tink

I know, silly! I know some of these questions seem kind of obvious Tink, but you know how it is going through thoughts and emotions and finding your place. Sometimes it feels liking walking in a new room in the dark and having to feel your way around even though it's very natural.

[Osiris]

I like to see pro bull riders when the bull wins. NASCAR is good for the crashes. NASCAR drivers have good safety gear so they rarely get hurt. A bull rider deserves to get hurt.

I'm a destruction junky. I'm addicted to shows like "Destroyed in Seconds" and "Spike's Most Amazing Videos."

Though there are a few bull fighting accidents that are just too painful to watch like when the guy who tried to get away from the bull and got a horn in the butt. *cringes*

[Luc]

I suppose it depends on which period of my life was "growing up." Honestly, I've always identified as androgynous. Still do. I believe my mind is a pretty good balance of what are considered stereotypically masculine and feminine traits. However, I prefer to appear as male on the outside.

When I was a little kid, say from the age of real consciousness of self (around 3) to 10, I thought I was a boy. Once I hit 10 and got the wonderful female curse, though, I became basically androgynous. At 26, I feel like a guy who isn't afraid to show his feelings, go enthusiastically clothes-shopping, or watch a good romantic comedy and enjoy it.

SD

[Janet_Girl]

I choose female because most of my life growing up, I never fit in with the boys and always gravitated to the girls.  And my late girl cousin always would treat me as her sister.  God, I miss her.

[Jay]

Male

I always new I was male.

Jay

[Nero]

i thought of myself as a boy, so 'male'. but after puberty set in, i started forcing myself to accept 'girl'. funnily enough, puberty had me behaving more male than ever.

[Constance]

I grew up "male," but not "masculine."

"Masculine" would be GI Joe and Rambo. Me? Think "Ducky" from the movie Pretty In Pink or Brian Johnson from The Breakfast Club: the lovable loser.

Guys like Ducky and Brian "us weirdoes" Johnson were my only real role models. Most other males around me that I was aware of were very macho, and that just wasn't me.

[NicholeW.]

I know, silly! I know some of these questions seem kind of obvious Tink, but you know how it is going through thoughts and emotions and finding your place. Sometimes it feels liking walking in a new room in the dark and having to feel your way around even though it's very natural.

O perhaps ... like learning to walk on water? It comes, Meghan; and it appears to have come to you.

Nichole

[Marshplains]

I don't know if you have had those feelings . I look at my hands for example while writing this post and it feels surreal because they are not mine . Or the time that i take a shower and i realize that this is all wrong and i start to cry . Or being in a social gathering and doing or saying something that a man would do or say and having this feeling all the while that something is out of place .Learned behavior such as lighting a cigarette and the way i put it out in the ashtray , i do it and one millisecond after that i get a flash and ask my self why did i do it in that certain way.

When i force my self to strip all that was learned i am left with one inalienable truth, what i have always known to be me.

 

[Jeannette]

Female.

[Butterfly]

Nothing but female!

[cindybc]

Well growing up I felt more comfortable making friends with girls. When I did the poll I did it before I even read your posts for the reason for your poll Meghan, and I clicked female automatically before I even read the other options so I guess that answers it for me. But then I like  Tink's signature, too.

All of my friends are women but I don't have any problems talking with guys either. But then I talk to kids, their pet puppy dogs, cats and probably even a lamp post if there was no one else around to talk to. Wing Walker could pass as a very larg planter at times, I'm thinking about getting a pet turtle. "Hee, hee." Just kiddin.

Cindy

[Jeatyn]

Definitely masculine, I HATED people thinking I was girly in any slight way. People thought I was a guy a lot when I was a kid and I never "corrected" them. I liked it that way. .. Then puberty hit 🙁 So I never felt totally male because of my body

[je]

I guess, if I had to choose one of these options, I'd choose neither. At this specific instance in time, it seems to most accurately fit me growing up.