Hi Heather,
I can relate to you and your life. That life of denail is rough....I know.
Somehow I found self-acceptance when I was 38 yrs old. I decided that I had to live truthfull no mater the price. So I told everyone I know that I'm a tv and started living enfemm as much as I could.
I have made some comprimises, no mones, no srs, not totaly fultime, carefull where I go localy and so on. I am free to be honest with everyone now and its a good thing. I admite I payed a price for it, as my wife of 17 yrs left me, lost some good old friends, family won't visit me anymore and I'm considered kinda crazy by some. LOL
But I am happier now than I ever have been!! I am now free to be honest and upfront and have even becaome proud to be tg. I am enfemme about %90 of the time (%10 work and errands endrab), I have made alot of new cool friends and have a woman who is into the honest me.
Life can and does get better!!!!!
For me....my tg desires have grown with my age. So I HAD to come to terms with them or my unhappieness was going to kill me. I have always felt I was a woman and was uptight because I was not. But, I do not feel that I need mones or srs to be happy, as I have comprimised.
By being free to just be myself I have realized a few things. One is that after a life of living as man....I am partly man, a thing I cannot undo. And that my femmeside has lived a life of isolated neglect. No wonder it grew over the years. I am not just one gender, but I'm not two seperate gender either. I'm both genders...one person. What a strange but special place to be.
My tg desires have grown with age.
That life did not end, once I told everyone.
I am not two personailtys...but one.
I am both genders...but mostly femme (in my head)
That being transgender is a positive thing.
I cd to be upfront, honest and feel pretty. (my true expression)
If I can be honest and free to feel pretty....I am very happy!
so your 1st step.........
Accept thyself!!
Love
DebTV