"TS Men and Women only" is more disturbing to me than the rest of this thread tbh. I'm not sure why. I guess if people are already on this forum and not lurking, I don't really care how their bodies and minds and social personas match.
Having been in some bad situations, I think we forget how grey the actual situation of rape can be. Sometimes I was forced and sometimes I wasn't. I always always used condoms, and the time I had a kid it was after sorta-willingly agreeing to have sex with a guy who had given me a black eye and a dislocated shoulder the day before. The condom broke. I was a teenager, and I was living in his parents' storage room. That's not exactly rape, but it's not what most people want when going into parenthood. I tried several times to get an abortion, and I was turned away, redirected, and at times even outright lied to. So many strangers had strong opinions. I was promised help or eternal damnation, I was labeled, I was denied care, I was referred for tests I couldn't afford, and I was so confused and overwhelmed by all the talk that I just kept punching the clock at McDonald's and telling myself I would decide later. Eventually I felt different, and my hormones went crazy, and I loved the lump in my belly even as I went back and forth between beat-up and homeless and alone.
I'm pro-choice, but after a certain point I'm obviously incapable of killing a baby. I don't think murdering an incomplete human is any worse than murdering a fully-assembled cow. I think we are all overreacting about everything most of the time and the oversimplification is why we can't get along.
(fwiw I stopped smoking and ate healthy food and nursed the baby etc, and she's as fine as my behavior could do anything about)
