Quote from: Adio on January 20, 2010, 06:03:11 PM
She said legally I'm a female. I told her that yes, but I'm a male and should be called a he. She accused me of making all "of this" about my gender issues and not about nursing which is her top priority. I realize that nursing is top priority. That's why I'm there.
Adio
I was an RN for about 10 years. I'm in the UK. Our grading may be a little different from yours, I know our proccedures regarding psychiatric care are different.
But in essence, the profession is the same.
What is happening here is they are trying to break you down.
The reason is they want to change the way you think about things so you are thinking as a nurse.
At the moment, you have a preoccupation on your mind, namely your gender reassignment. Gender reassignment, in itself, is not a serious issue, your preoccupation is.
Now what I strongly sugegst to you is to go with the flow.
If someone calls you miss or she, react in exactly the same way as if they have called you mr, or he.
Ignore it. No, not ignore it, get it into your mind that it is an utter irrelevance.
Because it is. It is no more important than someone calling you a nickname.
Having rows with the senior nurses is not a good start. But you can get over this.
But be ready to accept many more humiliations.Never break down. Never lose control. Accept any humiliations from senior nurses, agree with any criticism. Thank them for their advice and support.
About 10 years before I started nursing, I changed my surname. The reason was that my original surname held very difficult memories for me. I had and was completely cut off from my family and wanted a clean start.
I lost count of the number of times during my training, senior nurses called me by my old name. Other people began asking me why I had changed and even poked fun at me for doing it.
Believe me when I say I acted in the same way you did. But that didn't work.
I eventually told them the reason I changed was because I thought the new name sounded better.
What they are trying to force you into is integration with the other students. They see your gender reasignment as an emotional barrier to making friends with the others. Even if it isn't, they see it as such.
So, you're the girl who wants to be a guy? Does this mean you fancy other chicks? You gonna get one of those false ones? Can I see?I apologise for the above lines. I'm trying to make it clear to you what to expect.
You must react calmly and with some humour.
Is it obvious? Hardly, I'm celebate. Well, that's something you'll never know.Now you need to join a peer group, a group that hangs out together. The groups will naturally divide themselves according to sex. There may be a girl in the boys group and visa versa, but generally.
If you want to join a boys group you need to talk about the same thigns, do the same things and be ready to banter on their terms.
As for complaining, forget it.
These people have a catch all excuse to do almost anything. namely, they will claim they are protecting patients and they believe you pose a risk.
I've seen senior nurses pulling this one on nurses with over 30 years experience behind them.
Take it one year at a time. At the end of the first year, if you don't think you can cope, then look for something else.
You'll be surprised that such a decision will be taken positively by admissions in other courses.
And please, keep posting here about your experiences. I will try to support and advise you any way I can.