Quote from: Refugee on December 01, 2006, 07:50:19 PM
I don't know that there is a functional way to sit at a desk that is decidely "feminine".
LOL, a coworker emailed this to me today:
"I noticed you are sitting more lady like LOL..."She apparently noticed me sitting girl-style. Thing is, I've *always* done that - she's just suddenly hyperconscious of what I do since I recently told her everything.
I don't do it to be feminine though, it's just... comfortable, and I tend to instinctually try and curl into a fetal position, cross my legs and arms to sorta hold myself, being so scared and insecure most of the time, and from being so tall - I pull myself inward, tightening, trying to be small like I *feel*, and protecting myself.
I used to look at guys sitting on couches and envy their confidence... limbs all splayed out, arms outstretched and behind the backrest, legs out and open or crossed loosely.
And here I'd be sitting, legs curled up underneath me (shoes off, lol), arms tucked around a pillow, scared to death someone might, you know, notice me, lol...
But doing stereotypically male stuff? Hmmm, funny, I hit REPLY thinking I'd of course have a dozen things to list.. but I'm honestly having trouble here. I tend to over-analyze everything to death in logical perfection (like someone else I know) - or at least I used to. I'm seeing more and more that it was really part of the "male" protective shell, kinda like an older brother sheltering his younger sister so she could grow up safely. I actually have trouble "thinking" that way anymore, the chains just fall apart before I get anywhere. Now I just seem to FEEL everything. Which is kinda neat