What gender are you in your dreams?

[Mia and Marq]

I was thinking about this topic on the way home from work today. I've had conversations with bilingual people about what language they dream in because that says a lot about how you think. Likewise I was curious to see what gender people see themselves as in their dreams. Most people dream about their past and about what stresses them so I would imagine that for most people, they will have a mixture of these options. Therefore I'm giving you all the option to pick up to 3 because that should be pretty representative of what you usually dream as. Be honest though. Dreams are pretty fantastic sometimes and they can send a lot of very insightful messages about yourself.



If you absolutely need another option, I'll add it, but I think these options pretty much cover the marjority of possibilities of the base question.

[Kate]

It used to be a mix for me... sometimes male, sometimes female, sometimes a hybrid. The awful thing was whenever I WAS male, I knew it was wrong, and tried to become female (most of my dreams are lucid). I couldn't escape the GID, not even when I slept.

When I was female however, much of the time it was accompanied with the thought, "Wow! Cool! I did it!" I was more or less aware that I USED to be male, or was so in Real Life.

For a year or so now though, I've been exclusively female in my dreams, without any self-consciousness whatsoever. It's just normal, ordinary me, Kate, doing her thing. I'm guessing it's because I stopped thinking of myself as being male altogether, whereas before I kinda imagined GID as being a condition where I, as a male, wanted or needed to be a female. I felt guilty for it, and had difficulty accepting the fact that I AM female, regardless of my anatomy.

Once I finally accepted myself, and stopped making excuses and justifications, everything fell into place and became a coherent whole, both in my waking world AND in my dreams 😉

[Melissa]

Most of the time I don't remember my dreas, but when I do (as I seem to more and more lately), I don't see myself as any particular gender.  I am just me.  I am aware I am in transition in my dreams, but gender really doesn't play any huge role in them.

Melissa

[Kimberly]

For me it is "As I am in waking life.", with VERY few exceptions.

[umop ap!sdn]

Usually neither, sometimes female but even then being aware of my past. There's a definite sense, both in dreams and when awake, of being the same as I've always been. I think in waking life I'm staying sane by ignoring the residual male attributes my body still has, but in dreams they're present so my GID is often stronger then.

[tinkerbell]

Nowadays I am female in my dreams.  Heck! I'd better be! LOL ....but prior to transition, I was sexless, or perhaps a combination of both male and female; I am not exactly sure.

tinkerbell

[HelenW]

I am usually sexless in my dreams - or it just isn't an issue so I don't notice and sometimes, very rarely, I'm female.  I like those!

& 
helen

[Mia and Marq]

I think we can learn alot from our dreams. With that having been said, a number of people stated that its just not noticable or not an issue in our dreams what gender we are unless it plays an important role in the plot of the dream. And perhaps that should also be how the rest of the world views it. In our dreams we just accept that we are ourselves and leave it at that. No need to apply a label. When the people of the world show as much insight as our dreams are trying to portray, all the problems will melt away.

I personally also don't notice a specific gender in my dreams and a noticable amount of dreams I'm not even playing the part of me, but rather some other person entirely. I've always been very interested in dreams, what they mean, how to influence them, and why they occur. I thought getting some feedback how others view the idea of self in dreams would be interesting, and so far it has been just that, very insightful.

M&M

[Shana A]

I often don't remember my dreams, when I do I'm either Androgynous leaning more towards female or no gender at all.

zythyra

[Stormy Weather]

Good question. Most of the time I'm not even aware of my body, but I haven't been dreaming a whole lot recently. Or remembering them.

It's like if I ask you about a general memory; you tend to remember the emotion, event, person, view etc. before your remembered sense of self comes into play.

Better eat some cheese tonight and I'll get back to you tomorrow morning. 😉

[ChildOfTheLight]

First of all, I'm biologically male.  I've been female in my dreams a couple of times in my life, but that's not often enough for me to consider it significant.

Until I thought about it more carefully, I figured I was always just myself in my dreams, because that's what it seemed like.  At some point, though, I realized that I almost never noticed the existence of my penis in my dreams, whereas I certainly notice it in real life.  Now that I think about it, I don't notice my fairly large amount of body hair in my dreams either, though I question the significance of that since I don't think about it too much in real life either.

But I'm not imagining myself as female, either.  I don't have breasts in my dreams or anything.  So I checked off "no gender traits" because that's the usual way of things.

[Hazumu]

When I dream that I'm male, I dream that I'm unhappy that I'm male, and I'm anxiety-ridden.

When I dream I'm female, I dream that I'm happy that I'm female, and that it's right.

(Yes, this kinda' echoes a previous post by Kate, but that IS the way I feel.)

Sometimes I dream that I'm one and then become the other.  M->F dreams are happy, F->M dreams are anxiety.

For example, my last dream of this last night (the last one of the night is usually the most lucid dream,) had me at one point back in the military, and male.  Other more agressive males (also in the military,) were giving me rations of [___], both overt and subtle, for no other reason than me being as I was/am.

On another note, I regularly take vitamin suppliments that promote vivid and lucid dreams.  So I'm kinda' used to being aware of my dreams, and have built up a catalog of repetitive imagery and themes (the subject of another topic, perhaps?)

Karen

[Terri Gene]

don't dream, or at least remember them.  guess thats alright though, I have so few pretty thoughts.

Nice to see you Karen, you might contact me sometime, gets boring around here on weekends.

Terri

[Jillieann Rose]

Like a few other have said I'm just me in dreams.
But I don't remember most of my dreams.
 🙂 🙂
Jillieann/JR

[InMyWrittenHeart]

Androgynous

[AbraCadabra]

I often don't remember my dreams, when I do I'm either Androgynous leaning more towards female or no gender at all.

zythyra

Thanks Zythyra,
you save me typing it out. Same, same with me.

:-)
Axélle

[Natkat]

why isnt there a male option?
...
anyway my dreams are very diffrent and mostly im just me and rather "genderless" in the fact that my gender isnt showed in my dream only my action and fellings. but generally I am just me as trans.

only reason I can notice my own gender in a dream is if some gender parts are showed, my genetalia or cheast, or if anyone say something call me by a girl name or my boy name. in few situations I notice by having a body who might not be my own, who is clearly male or female so far I only remember 1 of those dreams where I dreamed I where a guy who in his 28.. or something..

[lizagirl]

I have always been a female in my dreams.

[Sara Thomas]

A little of both, though not androgynous: Mostly male; but when female, only dressed as so.

[Lex]

Generally, my gender isn't specified in my dreams unless the dream is sexual in nature. In those dreams I am male.