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The most depressing point of the degree being necessary is the fact that by its necessity, virtually everyone has one, so they've also became virtually useless if they're not the right kind or advanced enough, but they still cost as much money as they did when they got you somewhere in life. When everyone has a degree, the requirements to weed things out just get higher, and cost even more, and take longer. If you don't know what you want to do, you've just wasted a whole load of money and energy and will have little desire to go back to school later after having gotten a first degree, if you can afford it. Deferring school for a bit while you save money, if you can get a job, and figure out what you want to do, isn't always as bad as they say. And you can deal with your paperwork in the meantime, if you're undecided on that. end threadswerve/
If I were to change my name, I would use the androgynous nickname my parents have always used, paired with a likely more masculine (but one that wouldn't be absolutely horrific if used for a girl) one of my own choosing. When I was hating my name and wanted something more girly years ago (thought it'd magically make me feel like a girl...) I actually did file the papers, but there was an administrative error on their end and my forms and check got returned, for some reason, and I never resubmitted them. I thought maybe it was a sign that it was a Bad Idea...and looking back, I realize that yeah, I guess it would have been!
