clothes shopping, anyone feel this way?

[Elsa.G]

Well i went clothes shopping with my cousin today, no big deal. Im sure i made it clear before of the envy i have towards her, which she doesnt know by the way  anyway i feel so upset since i wouldnt say im out to the world or whatever right now, i dnt get to enjoy shopping like females. I always glare at all the cute clothes, shoes and jewelry. I want to purchase something female so bad, the only thing i have at the moment is nail polish and some cheap lipstick, but i was looking at some of my cousins male friends and some of them wear eyeliner and nail polish so maybe its not considered too female these days? and they are like heavy metal guys so i believe its more prevalent in that subculture. My cousin got a beautiful vintage looking dress, omg i seriously im so jealous still. It looks really great on her but i believe at this point in time it wont look good on me hence im 21 yrs old and fully grown. She got some really cute jewelry too and i wont lie i was tempted to steal it since it was all cute but i wouldnt do that. Anyway my point is, i do feel cheated out of this experience, shopping is so fun especially for girls and since ive felt as one of them always, i have always since i was a little kid wanted to go out and buy pretty dresses, jewelry, shoes, etc and i feel extremely cheated out of this now at a young age especially  has anyone felt this way before or before u actually bought girl stuff did u feel this way?

[bethw]

Only my entire life Elsa. If u really want some girl's clothes I think you should just go ahead and buy some. maybe some girly jeans or tee shirts.Just have fun.
hiugs
beth

[Colleen Ireland]

Only my entire life Elsa. If u really want some girl's clothes I think you should just go ahead and buy some. maybe some girly jeans or tee shirts.Just have fun.
hiugs
beth

+1 on that.  That's how I started - with a pair of jeans and a top from Old Navy.  Bought at a thrift store.  Total cost less than $10.  I actually dared to try on the jeans, because I did need to see if they fit (size 16), and I figured, if I'm standing there with a pair of jeans, nobody can tell by looking if they're guys' jeans or girls' jeans.  Well... I'm standing there waiting for a fitting room, and what song is playing?  Aretha Franklin - "(You make me feel like a )Natural Woman".  I kid you not!  Very first time buying something!  Sign from above?  You tell me.  That was last August.  Fast-forward to now - a week ago last Friday, I took the day off and went shopping with a friend, en femme.  It was wonderful!

So... just start small and work up!

[tekla]

Go shopping, buy what you want.  People in business care more about your money than your taste.

[azSam]

Go shopping, buy what you want.  People in business care more about your money than your taste.

soooo true. Yeah, they won't really mind. And you're -only- 21, you should do well if you decide to transition. And the guys who wear the eyeliner and nail polish, are usually considered emo, I think. I'm not entirely sure, cause I'm stupid with cultures like that. And things change faster than I can keep up, so whatever. I don't think it's really a norm for guy's to wear eyeliner or nail polish.

But yes, I used to feel that way all the time. I was so frustrated not owning any girl clothes. But I bought some, blew an entire paycheck on some. Now I shop frequently, and I no longer have a male wardrobe. The thing is, it takes time, we all want to jump in and become ourselves. But there is a lot of things going on, it really is best for you're own sake to take your time and sit down and set realistic goals for yourself.

For now, buying clothes is absolutely fine, I'd recommend it even. But you need to find yourself. A lot of us shell ourselves up for a good portion of our lives. My teenage years and early 20s were like this, I came out at 23, now I'm 25 and full time. But that transitional stage from 23 - late 25 was important because I had to understand who I was to myself.

And that's the most important thing, get to know who you are, and slowly try to come out of the shell you may have trapped yourself in. It's hard, very hard. But rewarding.

[Jalene E.]

All my life I wanted to buy womans clothes so I know what you feel as most of us do. Go buy yourself some thing girly and have fun for yourself. Enjoy who you are.

[erocse]

 I felt so much the same way you did. The only difference is I felt this for many, many years. I am 47 now. It's only been a couple months since the first time out, En femme. Now it seems I go out with my wife shopping nearly everyday. I LOVE IT !!!!

    When I think of  young ladies like yourself, I now think 21 is too old be feeling "cheated out of life".  Jump in , buy yourself some pretty things, the water is f-i-n-e

   Or how about this,

  "try it you'll like it" (this one shows my age )
        or
  "just do it"
        or
   "taste the rainbow"
        or
  "the world is your oyster"
        or
   " keep moving"
        or
   "yes we can"
       or
   "you can do it"

    Don't cheat yourself honey , take what life can give you.

  Hugs, Erocse
     
   

[tekla]

I was shopping for myself at 21, in the Midwest at that, and hell, Jerry Ford was President then.  If you have some care as to what people think about you (I don't) then remember Goodwill and Salvation Army, no one cares what anyone in there thinks about anything.

[erocse]

I was shopping for myself at 21, in the Midwest at that, and hell, Jerry Ford was President then.  If you have some care as to what people think about you (I don't) then remember Goodwill and Salvation Army, no one cares what anyone in there thinks about anything.

OK you got me beat, Jerry Ford , President, I was in grade school, The only shopping I did then , was the trip to my mothers closet, now and then.....

I love thirft stores , the Goodwill is our favorite !!!!

   hugs, Erocse

[tekla]

Well I meant the 'shopping at 21' deal.  I was taken shopping for the first time when was 16 - which would have been Tricky Dick) by my GF at the time - she's a sweetheart.  But I didn't start shopping on my own, by myself, for myself till I went on the road and to college.  I would just hit malls (always located on a freeway) as I was traveling through.  I'd never been in Lincoln Nebraska before, never planning on going back there - so why care?  Some people collected spoons from states they had been to, I collected lingerie.

We have piles of Thrift stores in this area and I cruse them when I pass them, it's the only way - I shop a lot, but buy very little, Thrift is more roulette than anything else, and sometimes you're lucky.

[Aidan_]

Eh...I'm too frugal to go on those awesome shopping sprees, but I do walk around the mall sometimes and notice something I'd like, only to snap out of it and remember that it's not for my gender (it makes it sound like a MMORPG with gender-locked items xD). I mean, I probably could get it and just pretend I'm gay, but I'm not gay. To be gay you have to like being a male, and like other males.

It will be nice to be able to go around and buy the things I think look awesome or cute eventually. For now, 'tis just a fantasy. Not like I have the money for it anyway (poor college kids unite!)

[lilacwoman]

on the other hand it is possible to have bad shopping days when you have money in your bag but nothing takes your fancy.
well actually I did buy a furtrimmed winter coat but just couldn't decide which handbag to buy   

[Elsa.G]

I felt so much the same way you did. The only difference is I felt this for many, many years. I am 47 now. It's only been a couple months since the first time out, En femme. Now it seems I go out with my wife shopping nearly everyday. I LOVE IT !!!!

    When I think of  young ladies like yourself, I now think 21 is too old be feeling "cheated out of life".  Jump in , buy yourself some pretty things, the water is f-i-n-e

   Or how about this,

  "try it you'll like it" (this one shows my age )
        or
  "just do it"
        or
   "taste the rainbow"
        or
  "the world is your oyster"
        or
   " keep moving"
        or
   "yes we can"
       or
   "you can do it"

    Don't cheat yourself honey , take what life can give you.

  Hugs, Erocse
     

whoa u think 21 is old? lol

[Rachel Bellefountaine]

I felt that way before I went full time. I'd see a nice dress in a store and wonder if it would look cute on me, but be too afraid to try it on in public. And when I first started buying womens clothing, while still dressed as a guy, I wouldn't try anything on upfront, because I was nervous, and would feel awkward at the checkout counter. Nowadays, though, I'm quite comfortable shopping for clothes. Being full time for a while has given me a lot of confidence, and has made me stop caring about the opinions others may have about me. I pass fairly well too, so that helps make things easier as well.

[Randi]

Yes I have and do feel that way. At times I feel so jealous of pretty girls and how they look-come to think about it there are a couple here at Susan's I would love to be able to look like they do LOL. Now, having said that, I have started slowly gathering a few simple things-pants, tops, socks, panties, and a couple of bras - oh yeah, and a blue striped 2 piece bathing suit. By all means go ahead and go for it!! Even if everything doesn't fit the way you imagined  it's a learning process and You will feel a lot better afterwards.
Randi