So here's the deal: I went full time about two months ago and everything's gone better than I could have dreamed. But my oldest friend and one of my closest supporters is in a tricky situation that I'm afraid my transition will only make worse.
He has two kids (now ages 13 and 10) from a marriage that ended when his ex got pregnant for the second time by some random guy she met at work. Despite her drug use and having no job, she got custody of the kids. Five years later, she's now married, has another kid, no job, still into drugs, and is twisting my friend into knots, legally speaking.
My friend signed a lease one late-summer morning last year, then was laid off that afternoon. During the month it took him to find another job, he fell behind on a child support payment, and despite his making it up in the meantime, she still went to court to get his wages garnished--a sum totaling nearly 70% of his paycheck. Now he's about to go bankrupt and she's threatening to pull his visitation completely if he doesn't stop working so many hours.
Now that you know what a charming person she is, here's the tricky bit: the kids know about me and accepted me immediately and unquestionably (started calling me by my new name, new pronouns, the works... and they've known me their entire lives). They're as open-minded and loving as the day is long, but they're savvy enough to know what their mother is pulling. Not sure they're old enough to understand the legal ramifications of it all, but they're pushing away from their mom pretty strongly right now because of what she's done to my friend (their dad). They're also being very careful not to disclose what's going on with this person they now call Zoe, for fear that their mother will use exposure to a trans person as basis to pull her biggest legal coup yet.
So the question is, would she have a leg to stand on using me as a basis to take my friend's kids from him? They're the pride and joy of his life and it would be the end of the world if something like that happened. Luckily, all parties reside in a large metropolitan area with a traditionally liberal court system.
Her demands and her threats have been increasing lately to ridiculous dimensions, and this is really scaring me... I would never want to be the basis of shattering my friend's life.